I just have a question , not sure who to ask. Perhaps you have an answer for me. So, I’ve been in chastity for about a month and a few weeks. I came the other day my rubbing and tugging my cage. Cum dribble out of it. Is that cheating ? I mean is that actual orgasm or just ejaculation ? Thanks
I got this question on Twitter about four days ago, and this is the first chance I've had to answer it.
I'm going to assume first off that you don't have a Daddy/Dom/Sir to turn to with this kind of question, and that based on the way you formed the question that this "just happened" where with a Daddy/Dom/Sir this may not have happened at all. Who really knows? I know it probably isn't the best to just assume things from a question, from a guy I don't well. It does happen all the time though. I think people presume all kinds of nonsense about us even if they just see us in passing. So many of us I think have just become accustomed to it, that for many of us we never give it a second thought.
First thing, I've got to commend you on being in chastity for a month, and by the sounds of it all by yourself. Meaning you took the leap to do it, realizing that this was something you needed for yourself, to complete yourself. I've debated it since March, but haven't worked up the courage to do it as of yet. Hopefully next year. But your doing it needs to be commended and I think so many of us a "fellow brothers", if you will, this is the least we could do for each other.
I've heard from so many guys on Twitter say that once cock-caged they feel free to be themselves, this almost "non-male", if you will, and that so many once having done it realize that for them their source of pleasure is their "pussy". Please see other posts about the thinking behind all of that, why recreate the wheel, when you can read about it. That their "cocks" are not even really part of the equation, and the more I think about that, the hotter it gets.
I've just recently have read about guys using vibrators on or below their cock-cages to "cum" without getting fully hard. I've not read if they feel it is "cheating" however. With that said, if your a bottom guy who is cock-caged and thinks otherwise I for one would love to hear your thoughts. I've also read quite a bit about "weak orgasms, dribbling, hands free orgasms" from dildo use, or even just taint stimulation. I've done completely hands free once and it was mind blowing to say the least. Dribbling I seem to a lot of, is it equal to an ejaculation--- no it's not, it's not even close to that, but when I think dribbling I think more of a dribble ejaculation that is caused by not using your hands.
I think tugging and or rubbing your cage is ok. Not cumming at all, ever, is not healthy for a long period of time and could produce health problems later on. What could be viewed as wrong is your taking off your cage and having a good old fashioned wank. Other chastity boys might agree with me. I think their are many ways to cum/orgasm with or even without ejaculation.
One of which is prostate orgasms, I call them pussy-gasms, others call them fag-gasms; it's all the same thing and these I do have a lot. My record is five in two hours of dildo use. My legs were weak afterward. The feeling is way more intense than just an ejaculation caused by a wank. These are full body waves of pleasure crashing over you. For me the start very deep with in me, after all mine have all come from dildo use. A warm sensation, then tingling, the pulsing and building and building until woosh, here it comes. Feels like a flood almost, and every time I have one I end up shaking-- in a good way. Many ways if or when I have one I don't feel the need to ejaculate at all. 95% of the time when I've had one my dick has been limp as a dishcloth, completely ignored. But that is me, and it may or may not be the same for everyone, so keep that in mind.
Personally, I wouldn't make a big habit out of rubbing or tugging your cage especially if you feel "guilty" later, this is about pleasure not guilt. However, with that said, if you continue to do so, do so guilt free. I think there are other venues to pursue to reach an orgasmic state.