plugs and Tunnels

I was asked recently on Twitter about anal plugs and tunnels, or as I loving refer to them as "boipussy toys", because if you follow me there or read here you know for me it's all about being pussy, HIS pussy actually and there are lots of posts here to read on the topic from a wide range of thoughts. This list is not comprehensive, and I'm sure I left some out. Not my intention, but I could be writing this post for a week or more. As with all boipussy toys I recommend lots of lube, lots of use to get used to the size of the toy you pick and "go slow" in advancing in size, most recommend a 1/4 of an inch in girth at a time. Plugs and tunnels are meant for more extended wear than dildo's and I would increase your time wearing them slowly as well. Listen to your body. It will let you know what is and what is not comfortable for you. I also would talk to other bottoms about which toys they like and why. Get their input. I would give mine here but believe it or not, I've never wore a "pussy plug" ever. Hope this helps and if you have other recommendations let me know and I will add them here.

https://toppedtoys.com/collections/gapekeeper  

direct from their website. This series of plugs seem to be very popular amongst those that use them on Twitter, and if fisting is your thing, I've seen a lot of "fisting bottoms use the larger ones. Prices range from $28.00 to $204.00 plus shipping

"The Gape Keeper series is designed for long term wear. The elongated bulb of the plug alleviates pressure points that can cause numbness or discomfort when wearing plugs for extended periods. The gentle taper down to the neck prevents the plug from being pulled into you too quickly, and allows your body to find a natural resting place. Super soft flexible platinum silicone conforms to your body and movements to provide an unparalleled fit and a full stretch. Available in a range of sizes so you can work your way up."

https://toppedtoys.com/collections/the-chute

Prices for these are $52.00 and $68.00 plus shipping

A flexible plug with pleasure for tops and bottoms, the Chute Plug is designed for double penetration. Get warmed up with the pleasant filling sensation of the super soft silicone plug that forms to your anatomy. Then let your playmate slip into the moulded groove along the side of the plug for an earth shattering experience.

https://toppedtoys.com/collections/deep-space

prices range from $60.00 to $212.00 plus shipping

Did you want it deeper? So did we. That's why we made the Deep Space, a plug that goes in wide and stays wide all the way to the neck.The tall shape of the Deep Space makes it ideal for squatting over and riding up and down the slightly tapered shaft. The wide mass will hit you deep, and the shaft will drag your lips out.With a less dramatic taper than our other plugs, you'll likely have to practice to hold this one in. Holding it depends on your ability to consciously relax your deeper muscles. Or, in other words, to make Deep Space inside you just as this plug is designed to do.

https://vixencreations.com/collections/anal-toys/products/tristan-1?variant=2285698244

It also vibrates! Insert a bullet vibrator into the hollow core to add delightful vibration to your plug. Designed by the author of "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women", this stay-put plug features a contoured base that rests more comfortably between your butt cheeks. Tristan is available with or without  the hollow core and is packaged with a bullet vibrator. Comes in purple an black and in two sizes. Prices are $48.00 and $58.00 plus shipping.

https://www.exotic-erotics.com/store/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=51_35&products_id=104

Sometimes you aren’t looking for deep thrusts. Occasionally you’re in the mood for just the tip! We’ve taken “just the tip” of Silver Full Flare and turned it into a filling plug in four sizes. Silver Plug medium is our original lifecast size with a 3.60 inch diameter, but whether you think less is more or feel that more is more we’ve got you covered! From a mighty mini with a 2.00 inch flare to a large with a luxurious stretch of over 4 inches, we’ve got a size to fit you, and everyone comes with a long-wearing comfort base.

All toys ordered come with a hand made storage bag as an added bonus. These are hand made in-house specifically for our products. Prices are $80.00 to $140.00 plus shipping

https://www.etsy.com/listing/756280379/customize-your-stinger-fantasy-butt-plug?ref=shop_home_active_24&frs=1&sca=1&variation0=1245654190

Stinger - Fantasy Butt Plug - Monster Butt Plug - Animal Butt Plug - D&D Inspired Sex Toy

This insect is eager to plug your tightest of holes. A small, easy to insert tip gently gives way to a plump shaft with three small rings for rest as you work your way down to the base. You won’t bee-lieve how arousing this creature is. prices range from $40.00 to $90.00.

https://www.forttroff.com/store/category/butt-plugs/

a whole slew of plugs and such from $22.00 to $139.00 plus shipping.

https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/online-store/BUTT-BOLT-THREE-SIZES-p131113030

Mister Hankey’s first plug is here, the Butt Bolt! Modeled to resemble a hex bolt and available in three sizes, this screw butt plug is sure to stretch even the most experienced of holes to new, delicious limits. Safe to say, Hankey’s Toys is happily giving customers fun new ways to screw themselves.

Our beefy new screw butt plug is available in all three of our standard colors plus silver and gold at no additional charge. It’s also available in three ferociously large sizes: even our smallest size offers a 6” circumference at the tip.

If you’re looking for a screw butt plug with the same quality and enduring pleasure potential as Hankey’s world-famous toys, we happily recommend the butt bolt for all your screwing needs. Go screw yourself today with the Butt Bolt by Hankey's Toys! from $69.95 to $144.95

Of course Amazon and Ebay can be sources of butt plugs as well, so check there.

https://shop.oxballs.com/PIGHOLES-the-original-gaper_c132.htm lots of tunnels with a wide range of prices

How I can make my boy pussy as accessible and pleasurable for men as possible?

The full question I got recently is: "How can I make my boy  pussy as accessible and pleasurable for men as possible? I mean I have sex pretty often, but I want to get bred full of cum and maybe even piss <lol>. Used and abused."

There are a couple of things I want to say here. A few different ideas, and of course "address in the elephant in the room." The elephant of course is COVID-19, which for many has abruptly ended their sex life; forcing many to only "toy"/dildo use and while enough for some guys it is also sadly lacking for many others. Speaking for myself, I went into self isolation in March and only partially came out of it about two months ago. But for me, it is where I fully embraced myself, my identity as a pussyboy even though I've bottomed for years, where my embracing the language and thinking of pussyboys came from. It also brought my first prostrate orgasm and first hands free ejaculation. COVID-19 brought about a lot of self discovery and not just sexually. COVID-19 also for many hookup sites like Adam4Adam has dried up completely, and made connections impossible. The temporary bar closures and even limited hours didn't help any either. The closure of bath houses/sex clubs made it even worse.

There is a tip in my advice to bottom virgins about toy/dildo play that could apply here, as at the very least keep you "in prime working order", if you will. Although many of us grew tired and frustrated with only dildo play for months on end. I think however it can, and should be a normal part of your "sex life". The more familiar with and acquainted with how your boypussy works the better the sex you'll have. Also be willing to try different lengths and girths of dildos as each feels different, makes you respond differently, different sensations and many adore the "stretching" process. You'll know. My advice is go slow, they say quarter-inch increments at a time. Again if this is your "thing".

Diet and enema's as discussed in the same post would apply here. So would staying hairless, if that is your thing and that can be seen in the hair remover post from earlier in the blog. Some may even add exercise to this, as a fit boy is a happy one, and a fit boy is better "equipped" in the sack--- or so they say.

Access in my mind is not just being physically ready for bottoming at the drop of a hat but also mentally ready as well and that is different for everybody. It's the head space where your thinking more sexually than rationally, and that can be a good thing and a bad thing too. A lot of it depends on the individual person, unfortunately shame, guilt or doubts play a role when they should not. I'm not much into thinking a sexual compulsion, or even sexual addiction is a bad thing. It can be a great thing. Follow your inner voice, and needs--- I say listen to the needs of your pussy. Who am I to say to little is too little, or to much is too much? That varies too. For some getting fucked stupid twenty times a week is not enough, for others it's way too much.

As far as the mind/thinking go STOP feeling any shame or guilt for being a bottom. That's just crazy in my book. Tops needs bottoms and bottoms need tops. Without one the other doesn't really exist now does it? Also STOP feeling guilt for the amount of sex you have. I don't care if it's some crazy number. Guilt over sex is a religious concept, created and promoted by men--- repressed men with too much time on their hands in my opinion who should be having sex, or at the very least masturbating. Shame can ruin you. It's not worth it. It wastes your time and energy. Don't feel any of it!

I'd say post in online hookup apps, chatrooms for some hookups too although I think for many that's gone to the wayside too, cruise gay bars if you can or if open, sex clubs and bath houses are an option too--- if open as well. Some say they have luck posting for "partners/hookups" on Twitter. I've never been big on cruising toilets or parks as the risk of arrest is too high for me. If push comes to shove some even resort to hiring a pro, an escort--- if that is your thing. I'd check local laws as in some areas hiring an escort can be illegal.

If you feel at risk for HIV/AIDS go on PREP, get tested and for the rest of sexually transmitted diseases. Knowledge is power. 

Join a gay group: from baseball, to a gay community center group, again if they are available do to COVID-19.

I'm also one of those guys who always, always free-ball's or wears assless underwear for easier access, might sound silly--- but the less I have to take off, or put back on the happier I am.

As far as the used and "abused" idea goes be brutally honest with the guy/guys you are with about your desires, fantasies and yes, even your "needs". They will either be into it, or run fleeing. That's them though and not you, so DON'T take on their rejection of a bit "rougher" play. 

Set your limits, set your safe word and boundaries and have fun. There's this crazy notion that the tops set all of those ideas/rules as we are the "submissive" ones. That's a bunch of crap, especially in the case of a new relationship or "trick" who knows very little, or nothing about you. As the sub we set the rules, the guidelines, how far we want to go as we know our limits. We also have the right to say NO at anytime and the right to ask them to leave, especially if their just a trick, at anytime. I'm also going to say if the top crosses those lines it's abuse. Abuse is abuse is abuse--- uncalled for, unwanted, not agreed to or forced upon us is just wrong. Get out of that situation as fast as you can! 

https://1in6.org/helpline/  or call 1-877-628-1in6 the National Helpline for Men Who Were Sexually Abused or Assaulted

I’m struggling to know if I’m a pussyboy/fag. Any advice on how to know and next steps?

 

I'd first start by reading my post on gay bottom virgins as there is insight there that might help, but somehow I feel this question is VERY different from than that of being a virgin, for some reason. Maybe my "Daddy" inkling tendencies are kicking in here.

I knew very early on, like 5 or 6 that I knew I was very different than other boys my age, growing up in a very strict Christian fundamentalist home didn't help, and the time frame 1971-1972 of my being that age didn't help as the gay liberation movement was still very new, and with very little gay "role models" on tv, and what was on tv was negative and made fun of us. The language came, for me, at 13 when the teasing, bullying, name calling in high school and even then I was, "Oh that is what that is." I'm one of those gay men that never dated girls, never kissed one besides my mom, granny, & aunts. Certainly never had sex with any girl & had absolutely no desire to either. NONE!

I'm also one of those gay men that started playing with my ass very early, versus jerking off. Like extra time soaping it in the shower, fingering it, rubbing it. The neighbor boy my age we'd play show me yours, I'll show you mine but it was our asses not our cocks. Fingering it initially came, by pushing the soap into me as I bathed, rubbing plastic bottles against it.... the list goes on. About 15 I knew my first time having sex was going to be with a guy, and I knew I was going to bottom. That's my first point.

1. Decide your going to bottom. 

        I also knew at 15, even never having sex with a guy that all I wanted to do was bottom. It was my mind set, if you will. I know a tender age to decide you're going to pussy, but it's the truth. As I've said in previous posts I waited till I was 18 till I had sex with a guy, who ended up my lover for almost 3 years.  I never topped him. He was kind, patient, tender, slow, passionate and everything I needed that first time.

It's all about mind set. You know already you're attracted to guys, maybe even certain "types" of guys. The type that makes you hornier than all get out. Mind set and acceptance of who as well as what you are in imperative. But beyond that is how you go about doing it. As I said in my personal history it was a process, a slow one for me and until March of 2020 after seeing a gay video on Pornhub where the bottom was called pussy, I didn't know the term pussyboy existed. Back in my day it was power bottom. That was enough, and henny I was a big ole power bottom.

2. NEVER feel shame for being gay, or being a pussyboy, or being a fag. EVER! Acceptance for being gay has exploded for the most part; however, with that said despite our strides ---even in our very own community--- bottom shaming runs rampant. We are seen as less than, weaker than, not equal too blah, blah, blah, blah. I say horse shit! Without bottoms tops are just wanking off, period. But also in this thinking. we can't be full bottoms with out tops. So there we are. Take pride in being a bottom, or even a pussyboy, read my posts on being a pussyboy as there is a difference.

Being pussy, however, I think is the full embracement of the idea of being submissive, passive, pleasing. The idea of we thrive, blossom, grow when we are getting fucked--- or in some circles the term is cunted. It's acknowledging that for many of us we don't feel or full selves without being of use to another men in sex or even servitude, like making our man breakfast. It's embracing a feminine or even non-gendered language above and beyond a cold, clinical one: asshole, hole, rectum for ----pussy, cunt, snatch, twat, and mangina (which I hate by the way)--- which in my opinion can be either gender or neither--- and possibly adding boy or man to them-- boycunt, as an example.

Being pussy also implies that your pussy is your TRUE sex organ, and not your dick like every man that walks the planet. That it is ONLY your pussy that brings you bliss, joy, relief, calm, happiness and yes even fulfillment. Your (prostate orgasms or full body orgasms) or as I call em pussygasms, others call them fagasm's are enough, and that "ruined orgasms", or dribbling, or completely hands free ejaculations are enough.

3. Use your "new" language while having sex. Simple enough, right? Nope, not that easy I was terrfied out of my mind using, "Fuck my pussy" the first time with a random top I didn't know in the least. Thank goddess he was into it. I was very nervous saying it. As I mentioned in point 2 I NEVER use anything but "fem" terms to describe what I have. It does get easier the more you say them. My tip here is if your in dating apps state your a pussyboy, those knowledgable will know to use that language.

4. Might sound silly, but find a core group of other pussyboys---- your sisters, if you will---- for friendship, support, encouragement, advice, tips, tricks of trade, to gossip with, share tops with; and believe this or not some of us adore playing with others like ourselves---- because the sessions can be completely hot as we know truly know what to do to ourselves or even others to make pussy happy. Try it you might like it. They can help in shaving to if that's your thing, or just have some fun with true kindred spirits. 

5. Might seem like a no brainer, but here it goes.... play with your pussy and often! I can't tell you the number of bottoms I talk to on Twitter who don't own a dildo or pussy plug. It's baffling. At this point you know your pussy. You identify that way. Why aren't you playing in it? There's this idea that tops/Daddies love loose pussy. It's true! They want a pussy they can rut in, plow stupid, and fuck silly, A tight pink hole of a pussy would faint in fright at the mere thought of such treatment. And with COVID-19, and so many self-isolating for many reasons, it presents the perfect time to get that dildo out, grease your pussy, and stretch it so when you want screwed senseless you can take it. See more in my advice to virgin pussyboys.

6. Finally, be proud of who you are at every level, for this is how you were made. Plain and simple. No living in fear, shame, regret, doubt or anything else. We get one life. Enjoy it. To the best of your ability live authentically. Other people don't like it so fucking what. It's their issue on yours!

Interview with @Jockfag79 of Twitter

@jockfag79: I'm getting a lot more confident since I started full-time chastity and posting on Twitter. I'm getting lots of compliments

me: you should, looking at your content I LOVE it!!!!

@jockfag79: I'm having a HELL of a lot of fun showing off on here.

me: I bet. I haven't gotten that brave yet, to tweet myself, not fully anyway.

@jockfag79: A lot of stuff for me this year has been about being brave and going what I want/need instead playing it safe.

me: Mine has been empowering other pussyboys.

@jockfag79: And I love that you're doing that! There's too much fantasy and kink that denigrates pussyboys/fags, and while I get that eveybody has their kinks, that one bothers me. I'm not worthless and I'm not pathetic. Perverted as fuck, maybe...

me: Exactly! Submissive/passive sure, but I don't shit for being me.

@jockfag79: Exactly, and I sure enjoy some verbal abuse from time to time, but it doesn't reflect my self worth.

me. EXACTLY! That's the point. I can get into the "games" of word play, but it doesn't mean they are me, or affect me either; as you said we have worth.

@jockfag79: I like feeling dirty and exposed, but that's different. Yeah... without getting into language theory and things like semiotics, words can have power... but they don't HAVE to have power.

me: Preach! There's a huge difference and so man people miss that point.

@jockfag79: Besides, without us, tops would be up sit creek.

me. Hallelujer! I've said that, or close to that so many times.

@jockfag79: It takes work and skill to be a useful sex object for tops. Being a hot top is easy: be halfway attractive and have a hard dick. Being a hot sub is a lot harder. Love the essay on #3rdgenderpussy, btw! It's something I'd been kind of thinking for a while, that being a faggot is a gender more than a sexual role.

me. Me too. I just began reading that Magnus Hirshfeld was saying that in 1897!

@jockfah79: DAMN!

me: It's kind of both for me, sexual and gender.

@jockfag79: Oh it's definitely sexual.

me: Thank goddess, huh?

@jockfag79: Haha, really. Having a pussy feels so good.

me: Sure does and I love having one!

@jockfag79: Since I locked up and got claimed, I've been using my toys a LOT more.

me: I've really been pondering locking up. I call toy play my pussy workouts.

@jockfag: It's definitely a workout.

me: The only word for me that DOES have power, and summarizes who I am inside and out is pussy or cunt (twat even) for it is WHO I am and what I have without having to physically or surgically change anything about me.

@jockfag79: I haven't found any single word that fits perfectly, so I don't get too worked up over any of them.

me: for me it's anything "fem" about my "hole".

@jockfag79: I definitely prefer to use pussy or cunt to refer to it. Anything that emphasizes that it's meant to receive cocks

me: That's my thinking too, anything else doesn't really embrace or emphasize that we are meant to receive cocks, or that we love doing it.

@jockfag79: Part of what I like about "fag/faggot" is that it encourages some humiliation and verbal abuse... but for some tops that's all they see.

me: How did caging change your thinking?

@jockfag79: Well, it kind of makes SEX the #1 thing in my mind, all the time. It's always there even when I'm doing other things. But because I can't use or even feel the thing inside the cage, "sex" doesn't have anything to do with it, or with penetrating, or with having an orgasm. "Sex" starts to mean being penetrated, being used for the pleasure and satisfaction of someone else, being displayed/shown off/exposed for the pleasure of someone else, turned into an object that exists for other men's pleasure. And the longer I'm caged, the more intense that feeling gets. It's not enough to fuck myself on a dildo: I need Men to watch me fucking myself on the dildo.

me: Is that when you fully accepted the idea of just being a pussy for men?

@jockfag79: Because they can enjoy the sight and be turned on by it. Yeah.

me: Enough to fuck you as well. So for somebody like me, whose never been caged, would you recommend it? Cautions?

@jockfag79: I mean, I love being caged and I'd recommend it. If you're at all curious, you should try it. I think the main cautions are:

1. Don't pressure yourself to go a long time at first, or even ever. Full-time chastity is a hot fantasy for some of us, but it's not always possible and some guys don't handle it that well. It's a personal thing.

And 2, it might take a few tries to get the right cage. The first cage I had was WAY too big. That meant I could move around in it, which caused chafing, and it looked like I was seriously packing in my pants, which felt completely wrong for someone whose sexuality is about their holes. Some guys move to smaller cages gradually, but unless you're really hung it probably isn't necessary. I'm average sized but my tiny metal cage feels great. It's comfortable, it's easy to wear, it doesn't get in the way. If I try to get hard it pulls on my balls and hurts like HELL. For me that feels appropriate, because it's probably going to be effective at teaching me not to get hard, but other guys might be really bothered by it.

me: What about shrinkage?

@jockfag79: I haven't seen any conclusive evidence that permanent shrinkage is a thing. A lot of us fantasize about it, but anatomy suggests it doesn't work that way. If you were locked up for 5 years, yeah, it would be small when you unlocked, but if you left it unlocked and kept getting hard, it ought to regain its normal size eventually.

The other caution would be that a cage usually changes how you pee, and a cage that's too big will make it messier. With a smaller cage, you can line up all the appropriate holes and they stay lined up pretty well. You might not be able to pee standing up, but things will be cleaner.

Having to sit down helps emphasize the "feminine" side, so it's yet one more way that your sexual role is reinforced in your mind.

All pics from @jockfag79 with his permission