I want to explain a little what led to this interview, if I may. @ABayou is on Twitter and as I follower I LOVE his content big time, and the biggest reason I do is he, like myself, is in his fifties does chastity and is a bottom. @ABayou is more fit than I am at this moment, as I have a small tummy, but he is what I aspire to be. He breaks the "glass ceiling" that we as the LGBATQIA+ community have with aging, ageism and the celebratory nature we have with youth and the Peter Pan syndrome. Besides, he is in my opinion scorching hot. The interview was done back in June and unfortunately things here for me took a turn as my husband of 18 years health took a dramatic turn for the worse even though we had been in hospice since October 2020. It was round the clock care all of July 2021 until he died July 29th. Grief and life after that lose somehow passed and this interview sat on the back burner.
For that I am deeply sorry to @ABayou and my readers here, as well as to my Twitter followers. I know this blog has suffered since July of 2021 but I'm slowly getting back to a mindset to work on this more so, as I feel it is SO important to have these conversations.
PB: I was wondering if you would be interested in doing an interview for my blog?
To see @ABayou in action click here
https://twitter.com/abayoujock/status/1446265844393254917
PB: I love your pictures so very much.
PB: I've noticed in some of your pictures you do wear a plug. Do you think it helps? And iis it fair size? Once again inquiring minds want to know these things. But I can relate to wanting to be stretched out. I bought awhile back the Fort Troff Ass Grommet set. I've worn the meduim sized one over night as I've slept with it in a few times.
ABayou: I think so. In theory we should be getting more enlightened, I would hope. Being a bottom shouldn't be considered less than a top. There all kinds of tops and bottoms out there.
PB: Are you a bit surprised so many love your content so much?
PB: Thank you. Does your hubby know about the lace panties?
PB: The blog is written by me a pussyboy and like you I'm in my 50's. I turn 55 in November. Part of what I'd like to talk about in the interview if you say yes is agesim, how bois can be any age, what led you to do what you do on Twitter and why? I was wondering if you would consider a DM interview for my blog. The focus of which is being on chastity and being an older pussyboy.
ABayou: I’m intrigued, but I’m doubtful I could contribute much. I’m kinda not absolutely sure why I do this or what necessarily led me to do it. In my everyday life I’m quiet, reserved and introspective. I’m partnered, and my partner doesn’t really know I do this or at least to this extent. That’s bad I know. Anyway, what to you think?
It could be an interesting talk, you might not know why you do chastity, I'm on the verge of doing it myself; but you certainly bring to the conversation of why you serve, how that may or may not vary with the situation your in if your even comfortable talking about it. I was just drawn to you, honestly, because I REALLY like what I saw and that you were doing what you did with such a positive spin on it, especially when this conversation is so youth driven.
I get it. I’m not sure how this would work. I don’t always know when I can respond to messages.
PB: I love your pictures so very much.
ABayou: Thank you.
PB: Anytime. So we could do the interview whenever you are online. I just one over a couple of days at their convenience. My first question is what drew you to chastity?
ABayou: I've always been aroused by humiliation fantasies, and for me being caged in a small cock cage is humiliating. Also I tend to edge a lot which I believe was excessive, and now I'm unable to do that. At least I can't stroke my hard dick all the time.
PB: So instead of excessive masturbation do you find that o are using your "pussy" more, or do you even use that term. I know some that do and others who do not.
ABayou: I don't use that (term), but I am trying to focus more there.
PB: So as far as terms go, do you then just use the standard "Hole" instead? DO you find that wearing chastity "helps" you focus more there?
ABayou: I think I prefer "hole", and yes it does I think.
PB: Has the excessive masturbation been replaced by "excessive" dildo use or are you still working up to that <giggle>? Inquiring minds you know.
Abayou: I'm working up to that I would say. I've certainly have done more than at other times in the past.
PB: Do you have a n end goal you want to reach when it comes to dildo use, or is that something you've even thought about?
ABayou: I want my hole stretched so that I feel more comfortable with a dick going in. Haha. I'm too tight right now. Maybe a fist. Haha.
PB: I've noticed in some of your pictures you do wear a plug. Do you think it helps? And iis it fair size? Once again inquiring minds want to know these things. But I can relate to wanting to be stretched out. I bought awhile back the Fort Troff Ass Grommet set. I've worn the meduim sized one over night as I've slept with it in a few times.
ABayou: The plugs I've been wearing aren't large in my opinion, and so far I've only wore then as long as four hours or so. I do think it helps.
PB: Are you wanting to increase the size of them?
ABayou: Not particularly. I don't want to insanely large. My partners dick isn't that big that I would need to.
PB: I didn't want. to imply insanely large, but bigger. I guess it comes from this place from seeing original content makers (Twitter & porn sites) who grow or stretch their holes bigger.
ABayou: But he may want to try fisting so there is that.
PB: Are you open to fisting? No pun intended.
ABayou: I think so, but like. I said it will take work to get there. Haha.
PB: I ask this as this year I've seriously taken steps to try to be fisted (as the bottom), although I've fisted as the "top" for decades. The work though to taking a fist is half the fun though.
ABayou: I imagine so.
PB: Do you find that. a lot of gay porn comes across as ageist, and if so how do we fix that?
Abayou: I honestly don't watch porn, and I never have. I thought there was all kinds of porn. Daddies and all.
PB: Do you feel the same way when it comes to views on bottoms (which can be so negative at times)? That there may be just a point where it is or doesn't happen anymore.
ABayou: I think so. In theory we should be getting more enlightened, I would hope. Being a bottom shouldn't be considered less than a top. There all kinds of tops and bottoms out there.
PB: That's very true; last year during the height of isolation for me was very eye opening. The term pussyboy, having/producing boypussy orgasms, and producing this "pussy liquid/froth with dildo use. It was a huge turning point for me, but I wish I had known about this years before.
ABayou: Good deal.
PB:Do you think that most gay men only think of pussyboys as younger guys, then guys like us (who happen. to be older) and if so how do we change that?
ABayou: Just keep putting ourselves out there. I don't know if pussyboys are only thought of as young. It's not like as you get older you become more of a top or something. Haha. Or less of a pussyboy bottom bitch.
PB: I find the older I get the more of a pussyboy bottom bitch I become. I believe you said at one point in a tweet that your hubby doesn't know "everything your doing/or involved in." Can you explain better, if your comfortable doing so, why this is?
ABayou: I just don't know how to communicate this (to him). He doesn't know I tweet all of this. I'm not sure how he would react.
PB: Wow! Is it fear he won't understand?
ABayou: Yes. He does have an inkling of it.
PB: You read my mind.
ABayou: I feel like it is such a of me. I guess compulsive though too.
PB: Are you a bit surprised so many love your content so much?
ABayou: Yes, for sure! I'm happy people get enjoyment from it. I'm sorry I really can't do some things because of personal situation.
PB: I do understand that, and your privacy. The struggle is very real, and it's where I am too with someone who would NEVER get any of it.
NOTE: This interview was done in June when my husband of eighteen years was still alive. Sadly he died July 29, 2021. I now know he understood a lot more then I thought he did. A lot more actually, and that may or may not end up as a seperate blog post at some point.
ABayou: I worry he'll find out about it, and be embarrassed about it. Like his friends seeing me doing that stuff.
PB: That could be very rough, and especially if it's used against you. So how do you handle or cope with these feelings?
ABayou: I try not to think abut it, haha. That's helpful, right? I used to suffer from social phobia. It occurred in my late teens and through my twenties. I would never leave my bedroom, and I suffered from depression too, as a result. I slowly pulled myself out of that hole, and I think my internet exhibitionism was part of that.
PB: I bet it was. That's how I was during COVID-19 isolation/lockdown for four months, of never leaving my bedroom let alone the house. Mentally I was in a very horrible place as well.
ABayou: I think that experience in my past prepared me for the pandemic lockdown. I didn't mind it, of course I had my partner here.
PB: I did too, but lockdown compounded our differences and our fights.
NOTE: Looking back at that time now (that being October 2021) the majority of our fights were over stupid stuff, like a lot of couples fight about. Ours was compounded as I noticed my hubby's health even then getting slowly worse. It was very hard to watch, let alone deal with and I think that added to the stress and made things the way they were.
ABayou: Oh. Not good. Sorry.
PB: Thank you. Does your hubby know about the lace panties?
ABayou: I don't know to be honest.
PB: If he does know is he the type not to say anything?
ABayou: Right.
PB: Mine doesn't know I have lace panties, and he would probably hate it. Mine are assless though <lol>. He'd also HATE that I call my hole a pussy too, to be honest with you.
ABayou: Haha, I get it.
I want to take the time and that @ABayou for his time and for letting ME pick the photos from his feed to use for this interview. I also want to apologize to him for the delay in getting this posted, but I'm hopeful he'll understand. I hope you all gained something from this as well.
