Blindfolded

It had been months since Joe had sex. Between his heavy work schedule, with sometimes 50 hours a week and his near full time college schedule there just no time for pleasure. At least with another person. Joe had grown not only tired of his twice a day dildo use habit but he had grown very weary as well as bored with it.

Joe was an extremely good looking muscle queen, in his twenties with a killer bod that exceeded the good looks as well possessing a huge bubble butt that was his pride and joy as being a full fledged pussygurl; as Joe considered himself non-binary leaning strongly on the feminine side. He was also very submissive in his personal life as well as being somewhat so also in his public work life. 

Late one night after a frustrating two and half hour dildo session Joe lost it. Sure the pussygasms were amazing, and his hole was happily sore as well as gaping but the loneliness over took him that night. He raided the fridge still being naked and grabbed the box of twelve wine coolers and drunk them all in one full swoop and passed out on the couch waking up hungover the following morning. Not quite the result he wanted with his hang over the following morning but he woke knowing exactly what he needed to do.

Perfection

I had trained her well. She learned that there was no better feeling than the taste and smell of my cock, or a pussy full of cum. She didn’t even care that she was in chastity anymore. All she wanted was my cock inside of her.

So when I told her that she was going to get all the cock she could handle she was beyond elated and immediately went cunt up. Her hungry puppy dog eyes begging for it. But when she felt a silicone cock enter her cunt and begin its monotonous thrusting she was disappointed and confused. She was Daddy's good gurl, wasn’t she? Her pussy makes/made Daddy happy, doesn't it?

She was. So good in fact to earn taking her training to the next level. It would take hours at first, but she would learn to cum in her cage just from pussy use. Over time it would take less and less time. Until eventually my cock would fuck the cum out of her in minutes but the fuck wouldn’t end until I was satisfied.

She would serve me beyond her own pleasure. A perfect fuck princess. 

Exposed

Riley took the pic and sent it. He put down the dildo and rolled over so that his pussy was in the air, and just laid there. What had he done? Well, he knew what he had done. Shaved his body, and then fucked himself hard with a dildo that he had just bought on some weird impulse earlier that day at the adult bookstore, and ejaculated completely hands free. And then he had sent a pic of himself exposed completely with a dildo in hand and his cunt drooling lube. 

Fuck, he felt...he was fucked! 

Then he realized he sent a pic of himself so exposed...who did he send it too? He grabbed his phone, his pussy still drooling and sliding down his smooth taint to his balls and onto his bed. As he grabbed his phone, it vibrated as it got a message and his mind shut off as he read it. Without another thought, Riley grabbed the dildo again and began to lick it up and down, making it wet with his spit, ignoring the pussy juice on it. He had not realized that he had accepted a video call, but instead focused on the dildo and making it wet to prepare to fuck himself again while on camera.

"Riley, I want you in that bed naked, ass up, pussy gaping and drenched in lube when I get there, Dad."

Four types of bois

Men: so you're fucking a bottom and you're wondering whether he's the kind of boy who can easily be turned into a submissive bitch? There's an easy way to tell. If he doesn't touch his own junk at all without needing to be told not to, he's already got a strong submissive streak. Turning him into your own personal toy and bitch boy will be easy.

Some of these naturally submissive bois will wait until you cum before turning their attention to themselves and their clitties; while others will ask for permission to do that. Which I think should be the norm as it it your tops pleasure you are seeking in the first place and not your own so therefore you never touch your clitty. Yet others may just get dressed, knowing that your load in their pussy is all they need and they leave. Adding their own load would seriously distract from the most important thing to them in this moment and that is once again YOUR pleasure, not theirs.  The only thing that truly matter to them was getting bred, for in you breeding them was their signal that they were truly good pussy that did it's job.

You can usually tell any of these bois that they DON'T have your permission to ejaculate and they will most likely obey without protests. Personally here I think they had their chance of doing that hands free while you were coring out their cunt, and hammering their princess spot/slut button. However, next time you do decide to fuck them. surprise them with a chastity cage and they'll very easily could be all yours--- as for many it is the happiest day of their lives.

There's a second group of bois who will attempt to pleasure themselves while you hammer away at their pussy but will quickly and obediently oblige when you make it clear you don't want them too. They may or may not have a natural submissive streak. It may or may not be as strong as in the first group of bois, or not as quite as developed yet. Either way, these bois can easily be turned into submissive bitch bois with the proper training by you. 

The third group of bois are those who keep reaching for their dicks and will get themselves off without asking permission and could care less what you said, or want from them, even though you've explicitly said they were not allowed. First of all these bois need a bare pussy, over the knee spanking! These bois ca be the hardest to train into a submissive bitch boi, because they may not see themselves that way at all. They may not see themselves as having a pussy, and if that is the case they more than likely may not see their pussy as their only source of pleasure. But when did you ever shy away from a challenge, Daddy? For some Daddy's breaking these defiant bois own will for independence and attachment to their pleasure is the greatest joy of all.

Lastly, is the group of boi's who see themselves as girls; meaning they use all feminine terms for all of their sexual parts as I have discussed here before: pussy, princess spot/slut button for prostrate, testicles become ovaries and of course clitty, nubbin or dicklet. They fully know, accept and celebrate the fact that they have a pussy, that their main pleasure comes from being pussy from men, are beyond thrilled when bred, may dream of becoming pregnant and the only real pleasure they want is their pussy-gasms/prostate orgasms because it means Daddy is really enjoying your pussy then. We may develop an internal liquid with sexual use, for some it turns into a frothy mix, we've all seen in porn and for some of us we enjoy the pussy stretch more than anything so we can be prone to big dildo's or even fisting. As long as pussy is in use we are at our happiest. Daddy's pleasure is our only pleasure, period end of story. We may even call ourselves girls, like I do.

I'll brazenly admit this is the group I'm in. I'm also the type that craves to be "Daddy's good girl", for Daddy to buy me lingerie, thigh highs, garters, lacy crotchless panties, bras, corsets. Maybe a cute skirt with my dress shirt and a cardigan, blurring the line but a clear biological "boi". Think Harry Styles here, or Jayden Smith or even Billy Porter as examples of what I'm trying to say here.

For Daddy's with a girl--- my best advice is marry her! Immediately!

Interview with: @abayoujock of Twitter

I want to explain a little what led to this interview, if I may. @ABayou is on Twitter and as I follower I LOVE his content big time, and the biggest reason I do is he, like myself, is in his fifties does chastity and is a bottom. @ABayou is more fit than I am at this moment, as I have a small tummy, but he is what I aspire to be. He breaks the "glass ceiling" that we as the LGBATQIA+ community have with aging, ageism and the celebratory nature we have with youth and the Peter Pan syndrome. Besides, he is in my opinion scorching hot. The interview was done back in June and unfortunately things here for me took a turn as my husband of 18 years health took a dramatic turn for the worse even though we had been in hospice since October 2020. It was round the clock care all of July 2021 until he died July 29th. Grief and life after that lose somehow passed and this interview sat on the back burner.

For that I am deeply sorry to @ABayou and my readers here, as well as to my Twitter followers. I know this blog has suffered since July of 2021 but I'm slowly getting back to a mindset to work on this more so, as I feel it is SO important to have these conversations.

PB: I was wondering if you would be interested in doing an interview for my blog?

ABayou: I'm a 53 yr old exhibitionist. Comment or retweet, but I’m partnered, and I’m not looking for sex, meeting anyone, hookups, trading pics, etc. Namaste. 

To see @ABayou in action click here

https://twitter.com/abayoujock/status/1446265844393254917

PB: The blog is written by me a pussyboy and like you I'm in my 50's. I turn 55 in November. Part of what I'd like to talk about in the interview if you say yes is agesim, how bois can be any age, what led you to do what you do on Twitter and why? I was wondering if you would consider a DM interview for my blog. The focus of which is being on chastity and being an older pussyboy. 

ABayou: I’m intrigued, but I’m doubtful I could contribute much. I’m kinda not absolutely sure why I do this or what necessarily led me to do it. In my everyday life I’m quiet, reserved and introspective. I’m partnered, and my partner doesn’t really know I do this or at least to this extent. That’s bad I know. Anyway, what to you think? 

It could be an interesting talk, you might not know why you do chastity, I'm on the verge of doing it myself; but you certainly bring to the conversation of why you serve, how that may or may not vary with the situation your in if your even comfortable talking about it. I was just drawn to you, honestly, because I REALLY like what I saw and that you were doing what you did with such a positive spin on it, especially when this conversation is so youth driven. 

I get it. I’m not sure how this would work. I don’t always know when I can respond to messages.

PB: I love your pictures so very much.

ABayou: Thank you.

PB: Anytime. So we could do the interview whenever you are online. I just one over a couple of days at their convenience. My first question is what drew you to chastity?

ABayou: I've always been aroused by humiliation fantasies, and for me being caged in a small cock cage is humiliating. Also I tend to edge a lot which I believe was excessive, and now I'm unable to do that. At least I can't stroke my hard dick all the time.

PB: So instead of excessive masturbation do you find that o are using your "pussy" more, or do you even use that term. I know some that do and others who do not.

ABayou: I don't use that (term), but I am trying to focus more there.

PB: So as far as terms go, do you then just use the standard "Hole" instead? DO you find that wearing chastity "helps" you focus more there?

ABayou: I think I prefer "hole", and yes it does I think.

PB:  Has the excessive masturbation been replaced by "excessive" dildo use or are you still working up to that <giggle>? Inquiring  minds you know.

Abayou: I'm working up to that I would say. I've certainly have done more than at other times in the past.

PB: Do you have a n end goal you want to reach when it comes to dildo use, or is that something you've even thought about?

ABayou: I want my hole stretched so that I feel more comfortable with a dick going in. Haha. I'm too tight right now. Maybe a fist. Haha.

PB: I've noticed in some of your pictures you do wear a plug. Do you think it helps? And iis it fair size? Once again inquiring minds want to know these things. But I can relate to wanting to be stretched out. I bought awhile back the Fort Troff Ass Grommet set. I've worn the meduim sized one over night as I've slept with it in a few times.

ABayou: The plugs I've been wearing aren't large in my opinion, and so far I've only wore then as long as four hours or so. I do think it helps.

PB: Are you wanting to increase the size of them?

ABayou: Not particularly. I don't want to insanely large. My partners dick isn't that big that I would need to.

PB: I didn't want. to imply insanely large, but bigger. I guess it comes from this place from seeing original content makers (Twitter & porn sites) who grow or stretch their holes bigger.

ABayou: But he may want to try fisting so there is that.

PB: Are you open to fisting? No pun intended.

ABayou: I think so, but like. I said it will take work to get there. Haha.

PB: I ask this as this year I've seriously taken steps to try to be fisted (as the bottom), although I've fisted as the "top" for decades. The work though to taking a fist is half the fun though.

ABayou: I imagine so.

PB: Do you find that. a lot of gay porn comes across as ageist, and if so how do we fix that? 

Abayou: I honestly don't watch porn, and I never have. I thought there was all kinds of porn. Daddies and all.

PB: Do you feel the same way when it comes to views on bottoms (which can be so negative at times)? That there may be just a point where it is or doesn't happen anymore.

ABayou: I think so. In theory we should be getting more enlightened, I would hope. Being a bottom shouldn't be considered less than a top. There all kinds of tops and bottoms out there.

PB: That's very true; last year during the height of isolation for me was very eye opening. The term pussyboy, having/producing boypussy orgasms, and producing this "pussy liquid/froth with dildo use. It was a huge turning point for me, but I wish I had known about this years before.

ABayou: Good deal.

PB:Do you think that most gay men only think of pussyboys as younger guys, then guys like us (who happen. to be older) and if so how do we change that?

ABayou: Just keep putting ourselves out there. I don't know if pussyboys are only thought of as young. It's not like as you get older you become more of a top or something. Haha. Or less of a pussyboy bottom bitch.

PB: I find the older I get the more of a pussyboy bottom bitch I become. I believe you said at one point in a tweet that your hubby doesn't know "everything your doing/or involved in." Can you explain better, if your comfortable doing so, why this is?

ABayou: I just don't know how to communicate this (to him). He doesn't know I tweet all of this. I'm not sure how he would react.

PB: Wow! Is it fear he won't understand?

ABayou: Yes. He does have an inkling of it.

PB: You read my mind.

ABayou: I feel like it is such a of me. I guess compulsive though too.

PB: Are you a bit surprised so many love your content so much?

ABayou: Yes, for sure! I'm happy people get enjoyment from it. I'm sorry I really can't do some things because of personal situation.

PB: I do understand that, and your privacy. The struggle is very real, and it's where I am too with someone who would NEVER get any of it.

        NOTE: This interview was done in June when my husband of eighteen years was still alive. Sadly he died July 29, 2021. I now know he understood a lot more then I thought he did. A lot more actually, and that may or may not end up as a seperate blog post at some point.

ABayou: I worry he'll find out about it, and be embarrassed about it. Like his friends seeing me doing that stuff.

PB: That could be very rough, and especially if it's used against you. So how do you handle or cope with these feelings?

ABayou: I try not to think abut it,  haha. That's helpful, right? I used to suffer from social phobia. It occurred in my late teens and through my twenties. I would never leave my bedroom, and I suffered from depression too, as a result. I slowly pulled myself out of that hole, and I think my internet exhibitionism was part of that.

PB: I bet it was. That's how I was during COVID-19 isolation/lockdown for four months, of never leaving my bedroom let alone the house. Mentally I was in a very horrible place as well.

ABayou: I think that experience in my past prepared me for the pandemic lockdown. I didn't mind it, of course I had my partner here.

PB: I did too, but lockdown compounded our differences and our fights.

        NOTE: Looking back at that time now (that being October 2021) the majority of our fights were over stupid stuff, like a lot of couples fight about. Ours was compounded as I noticed my hubby's health even then getting slowly worse. It was very hard to watch, let alone deal with and I think that added to the stress and made things the way they were.

ABayou: Oh. Not good. Sorry.

PB: Thank you. Does your hubby know about the lace panties?

ABayou: I don't know to be honest.

PB: If he does know is he the type not to say anything?

ABayou: Right.

PB: Mine doesn't know I have lace panties, and he would probably hate it. Mine are assless though <lol>. He'd also HATE that I call my hole a pussy too, to be honest with you.

ABayou: Haha, I get it.

I want to take the time and that @ABayou for his time and for letting ME pick the photos from his feed to use for this interview. I also want to apologize to him for the delay in getting this posted, but I'm hopeful he'll understand. I hope you all gained something from this as well. 

Acceptance, Self love; tips, memes and my thoughts

This morning I woke up thinking about acceptance. Our acceptance or ourselves. I think that is where it all begins, and everything else follows. So, I'll admit I sleep bottomless. Just a t-shirt nothing else, my shoulders get chilly. Have slept that way since I was about fourteen, couldn't stand the confinement. Anyway, the last year since seeing the @BigCMen and @DevinFranco Pornhub vid, where Daddy Cory calls Devin pussy---which I wrote about here... I wake up every morning, first thing; I open my legs wide, reach down between them and pet, pat and lightly spank my pussy and verbally say, "I love my pussy, thank you for being my pussy."

Sometimes, dig out my dildo and poppers and start the day with some "wreckage". A friend last year, during the height of COVID-19 and my four and a half month self isolation suggested this tip too, which I did every day. Three times a day actually:

Strip naked, get on all fours in bitch pose. Pussy up, legs spread wide, back arched, head on the floor and say, "I am pussy and I LOVE myself being pussy." He recommended saying it fifty times in a row, like chanting and I have a string of Hindu prayer beads that I used to keep track of how many times I was saying it.

You can take this a step further, which is what I did and while riding your favorite dildo say "your mantra". Same amount of times or more. Riding a dildo I would say it every single thrust in and out. In my thinking this cemented my place, even though I had 98% bottomed since day one, first sexual experience right out the gate. Of course after hearing the term Daddy Cory used, I stumbled accidentally on the term pussyboy and as a writer, my research went into overkill. I HAD to understand this thinking. HAD to! Once I did, as Ms. Cracker says, "Shabbat, shablam" it all made sense. I had been that all my life and didn't fully know the term or when it become vogue. The mantra's just cleared the way for my full acceptance. Fem terms are the only ones I use now, for me it is WHO I am. It makes sense to me. It's how I view myself. I write this blog and do what I do on Twitter as I want and feel the need to help others, that's my Daddy side.

I want to celebrate, empower, rejoice in and help others like me to, "Live their best bottom life" or better yet, "Their best pussy life." There never needs to be shame, or guilt, or fear, or doubt or dread. NONE of it, do you hear me! This is my Daddy side kicking in here.

 

The terminology of gay bottoms confuses me. What exactly am I as a bottom? (Edited)

     

I was asked this question today, again on Twitter, this time about the language, or terms, or even the dichotomy of terms we use to describe men who bottom sexually: meaning they get fucked-- point blank. I believe there are difference in terms, slight as they may be-- or as vast they maybe depending one's personally journey into that term, thinking and understanding. What is so uniquely wonderful, in my opinion is is each of our journeys is so vastly different. That there is no right way, or wrong way; just OUR way and that is perfectly fine as no one knows you better than you, just saying, henny!

Will start super simple, and work our way up. I also know, that I might not be able to cover every term out there, but I'll do they ones I think that are common.

Bottom- a man who gets fucked in the ass by other men. Period. Can be gay, can be bisexual, can be on the down low, can be straight, can be curious-- as long as he is a man getting fucked, he's a bottom. At least occasionally especially if he is versatile, which is a whole other post into itself.

Picky Bottom- just that. Very picky about who, why, when, where, how they get fucked. Standards at times can be way too high and if this happens NO tops meet the requirements they have. Most have very strict rules about getting fucked and they ARE to be followed... or else no boi pussy for you.

Whore, Slut, Tramp- any bottom who is easy to fuck. Maybe too easy too, or at least regarded that way. The words here are interchangeable for me. It can also mean that he sleeps around a lot, with a lot of men. May have little to no standards of who, when, where, how or even why... just bend over and take it.

The issue here is societal shaming even within our own gay community about being any one of these things, let alone a bottom. There is a whole post on bottom shaming on this blog--- if you'd like to read more on the topic. But, when it comes to shaming. Oh HELL NO! Not today Satan! Not today! Who are you to tell me what is or is not too much sex? Seriously, the sex police. I think not. Our sexual needs are our own. If I choose to sleep 1,095 men a year, or three a day that's my own damn business and not yours! If you're judging me, you're probably some frigid bitch not getting DICK!

Power bottom-  is a term that gets thrown around a lot by people in our community, yet few truly understand what this phrase really means. Well, I’m here to give you the definition so that you have the lingo right. If you are a true power bottom, you are gay man who has a huge appetite for being penetrated by another guy (or guys). You can last for extended periods of time without having to take breaks.

Power bottoms tend to last longer in the sack when the top is confident during intense jack-hammering (read between the lines). Power bottoms are ready to take it day or night and commonly like to skip a lot of foreplay and get right down to the business of being fucked.

Let’s first dispense with some of the common myths that are often associated with being a power bottom. While I can’t list them all, here are some of the biggies.

Power bottoms are:

Effeminate: A lot of people seem to think that guys who power bottom are “queens” or “big girls”. That’s totally false. I would argue that guys who mostly or exclusively bottom are perhaps some of the most masculine guys on the planet. This myth can be traced to harmful stereotypes about gay men – pure and simple. However, if you are like me I am effeminate and I have no shame in being so. You'll hear me say during sex, "fuck my pussy". If your effeminate embrace it and celebrate it there is nothing wrong in being a " big girl".

Selfish: I’ve had friends say that power bottoms are big time selfish whores. This one is BS too. That’s because being a power bottom isn’t so much about the activity but instead, about the mindset. Just because we like to bend over doesn’t mean we can’t or won’t top. It does mean that we prefer to ride a guy and doing so for long periods of time. This one is also can be a positive attribute in my opinion, as I am selfish: meaning I want all the tops for myself, and there's nothing there either.

Pain: Perhaps the worst stereotype associated with this bit of lingo relates to physical pain. For some stupid reason, a lot of gay tops have it in their mind that power bottoms don’t feel pain. I’m here to tell you that’s total B.S. because we do. It DOES hurt if you just jam it in or suddenly yank it out. Nothing pisses me off more than a top thinking he can do whatever he wants to me because the guy thinks I’m impervious to pain, you know? And I hate to break it to you, but not all of us are hooked on crystal meth, causing us to get “tina dick”. I don’t know if that myth came from videos or an urban legend but it’s crap.

Submissive: Continuing on with the stereotypes, power bottoms can be submissive but that doesn’t mean they are totally submissive. Sure, I suppose if you hypnotize one of us, we could turn into some freakish zombie bottom but in the real world, that’s not been my experience. Some of us are very "take charge" kind of guys as we know how we like to get fucked, and we'll do anything to get it that way, even if we do have to take charge.

Slutty: Finally, not all guys who are power bottoms are slutty. I hate when gay men think this but apparently, many do. Remember, it’s not about the number of guys we can take but instead, our ability to be ready and last for the long term. If you are a slut like me, embrace it, celebrate it and let no one shame you in being one. Be the biggest slut you can be,

To be this type of bottom, it means you have personal POWER. Here, I am talking about a high degree of self-esteem and self-worth. Not the other way around.

Power Bottom Truths

As mentioned earlier, a gay man who identifies as a power bottom has adopted a mindset. This way of thinking takes years to develop and has nothing to do with the top’s size or girth.

Instead, it’s about the tops ability to jump into action at a moment’s notice, allowing someone like me to be equally ready.

This means we’ve educated ourselves about digestive health, allowing us to do our thing without worry.

What really pisses me off is running into guys on hookup apps like Grindr and Scruff who claim they are power bottoms when they simply aren’t.

Just because you rode a guy for 20 minutes doesn’t entitle you to claim the label. And so what if you can sit on a giant toy! That doesn’t mean you are one either!

So gay men everywhere, please, for the love of all that is good, please stop calling yourself a power bottom when you aren’t.

This is a very special title and should be reserved for gay men who have put in years of effort while educating themselves on how to be masters of their craft. 

Similar in some regards to a bottom, but a specific variety of bottom... like the rest of bottom terms. A power bottom tends to be the one in charge, and feels most powerful when the are getting fucked. He enjoys maintaining control over penetration. The bottom is on the throne, so to speak, "taking the Top". Leaves no question about who fucked whom. The result with many disappointing "stellar tops" who may not know how to rim or like to rim, or won't rim, couldn't find your prostrate with eleven fingers, and high resolution maps of my pussy; and either cum or pass out from exhaustion after three to five minutes of fucking. Power bottoms are in my opinion: supposedly have skilled tongues, creative, honest supremely confident and themselves as a bottom, and hands on individual leadership abilities. 

Cum Dump- Related terms are cum dumpster, cum whore, cum guzzler, cum bucket. Can be a very affectionate term of endearment by the right guy. Within the gay community often used to describe a very constantly horny, bottom gay guy who is used by men for his body and nothing else. He is just the vessel in which men deposit their semen when they are getting fucked they LIVE for the cream pie ie: being bred, getting pregnant, white washing the walls all terms for taking his cum in your pussy. 

This term can be used frequently within the bareback (unsafe rectal sex) community as it requires condom-less sex. The term went out of fashion for a period of time during the height of the AIDS epidemic, but with the advancement of PREP, medications to prevent HIV/AIDS, the term has come back bigger than ever. Cum dumps can be found easily at orgies, bath houses or gay sex clubs, hook up apps and infrequently at gay bars. I WILL not advocate for or against doing this in real life, that is your decision. Your an adult. And I'm not your Daddy, your lover, or your husband.

Faggot- from what little of the term, as I understand it... and I could be wrong... is someone who has absolutely no limits when it comes to sex. Degrading.... yes. Humiliating... yes. Lick a "scuzzy" looking toilet bowl yes. Pissed on... yes. You get the idea. The more you do to this guy the more he loves it, thrives in it and enjoys it. A combination of all the other terms thrown in for this guy, plus terms I may have forgotten. Years ago during the Queer Nation Movement the term also gave us power in ways we never had it before. Hence the name of this blog. I'm gay. I have sex with men... actually a lot of it. With any man wanting to fuck me. I'm the one getting it up the ass; but by god I enjoy it and want it. No apologies. In your face... fuck your attitude.

Pussyboy- Finally, my favorite term of all time! You know this if you follow me on Twitter at all. I Tweet about being pussy all the time. 

Go read my other posts about being a pussyboy before reading this one, as I think it will make more sense that way, because I've grown into my acceptance so much since those posts.

I've written about it extensively on here what I want to do with this post is state what I learned. I met a guy very close to where I live.. not saying where, or who, or how we met--- but I arrived at his door and he was stark naked, gorgeous. HUGE cock!

I got naked and for the next three HOURS it was nonstop ass play. He fucked me stupid with his eight inch, raw cock. He used big toys on me. But the most action my pussy got was his HANDS! They were magic. I felt things I've never felt before. My headspace was, "He's using me like the pussy I want to be. He fully gets me without my saying a single word." He nearly worked his fist in me... about two inches more and the widest part of his hand WOULD have been in my cunt. 

You read that right, cunt. He cunted me! He changed how I view myself forever. He cemented in my head that.... me the person... is absolutely nothing, if I can't be pussy for MEN than I am nothing! That I'm nothing but pussy, and the rest of me... is the life support that makes it possible for me to be pussy. He could have used me ALL damn day, and I still would have wanted more. And, that in all honesty is what I felt that day when it ended. That I wanted more. That I will do EVERY THING in my power to play with him again. I have too in my thinking, because I think each time I do my thinking will evolve and, my head space about being pussy will go deeper. Who knows what I'll think when I finally take his fist, but I'm sure it will be intense!

The nicest part of this whole experience as much as he was the BEST TOP I've ever had, he also cemented in my head I love being the "Daddy" playing in his boy's pussy as well; for as much as he gave... he also took. Now, I'm not saying he's pussy, because he never said anything remotely connected to being a pussyboy. I worked his ass just as good as he did mine.  But the idea of being a Daddy who loves playing in pussy as much or even more so having mine played with.... and I love it a lot... I enjoy playing in another's  pussy just as much. It doesn't make any less pussy myself.

The absolute HOTTEST thing we did, was both of us using a double headed dildo at the same time, both of us on our backs. It was so INSANELY hot! First time ever for me doing it, and I would do again with out a doubt!

I didn't say "pussy" as much as I wanted too in my dialogue with him as I wasn't completely sure if he was into my saying it or not... but my mind was screaming it at the top of my lungs a million times over... that's how I knew I had been fully, unapologetically cunted and my pussy and my mind knew it!

With all of this said about terms, and ideas I think we can should be a mix of our unique design. We can be all of these things... in more ways than one especially when we need to be that "term". It's just a label, and WE are just males who happen to get fucked my men.

Chastity cages, ejaculations, and orgasms---- oh my

 I just have a question , not sure who to ask. Perhaps you have an answer for me. So, I’ve been in chastity for about a month and a few weeks. I came the other day my rubbing and tugging my cage. Cum dribble out of it. Is that cheating ? I mean is that actual orgasm or just ejaculation ? Thanks

I got this question on Twitter about four days ago, and this is the first chance I've had to answer it.

I'm going to assume first off that you don't have a Daddy/Dom/Sir to turn to with this kind of question, and that based on the way you formed the question that this "just happened" where with a Daddy/Dom/Sir this may not have happened at all. Who really knows? I know it probably isn't the best to just assume things from a question, from a guy I don't well. It does happen all the time though. I think people presume all kinds of nonsense about us even if they just see us in passing. So many of us I think have just become accustomed to it, that for many of us we never give it a second thought.

First thing, I've got to commend you on being in chastity for a month, and by the sounds of it all by yourself. Meaning you took the leap to do it, realizing that this was something you needed for yourself, to complete yourself. I've debated it since March, but haven't worked up the courage to do it as of yet. Hopefully next year. But your doing it needs to be commended and I think so many of us a "fellow brothers", if you will, this is the least we could do for each other.

I've heard from so many guys on Twitter say that once cock-caged they feel free to be themselves, this almost "non-male", if you will, and that so many once having done it realize that for them their source of pleasure is their "pussy". Please see other posts about the thinking behind all of that, why recreate the wheel, when you can read about it. That their "cocks" are not even really part of the equation, and the more I think about that, the hotter it gets.

I've just recently have read about guys using vibrators on or below their cock-cages to "cum" without getting fully hard. I've not read if they feel it is "cheating" however. With that said, if your a bottom guy who is cock-caged and thinks otherwise I for one would love to hear your thoughts. I've also read quite a bit about "weak orgasms, dribbling, hands free orgasms" from dildo use, or even just taint stimulation. I've done completely hands free once and it was mind blowing to say the least. Dribbling I seem to a lot of, is it equal to an ejaculation--- no it's not, it's not even close to that, but when I think dribbling I think more of a dribble ejaculation that is caused by not using your hands.

I think tugging and or rubbing your cage is ok. Not cumming at all, ever, is not healthy for a long period of time and could produce health problems later on. What could be viewed as wrong is your taking off your cage and having a good old fashioned wank. Other chastity boys might agree with me. I think their are many ways to cum/orgasm with or even without ejaculation.

One of which is prostate orgasms, I call them pussy-gasms, others call them fag-gasms; it's all the same thing and these I do have a lot. My record is five in two hours of dildo use. My legs were weak afterward. The feeling is way more intense than just an ejaculation caused by a wank. These are full body waves of pleasure crashing over you. For me the start very deep with in me, after all mine have all come from dildo use. A warm sensation, then tingling, the pulsing and building and building until woosh, here it comes. Feels like a flood almost, and every time I have one I end up shaking-- in a good way. Many ways if or when I have one I don't feel the need to ejaculate at all. 95% of the time when I've had one my dick has been limp as a dishcloth, completely ignored. But that is me, and it may or may not be the same for everyone, so keep that in mind.

Personally, I wouldn't make a big habit out of rubbing or tugging your cage especially if you feel "guilty" later, this is about pleasure not guilt. However, with that said, if you continue to do so, do so guilt free. I think there are other venues to pursue to reach an orgasmic state.

I’m struggling to know if I’m a pussyboy/fag. Any advice on how to know and next steps?

 

I'd first start by reading my post on gay bottom virgins as there is insight there that might help, but somehow I feel this question is VERY different from than that of being a virgin, for some reason. Maybe my "Daddy" inkling tendencies are kicking in here.

I knew very early on, like 5 or 6 that I knew I was very different than other boys my age, growing up in a very strict Christian fundamentalist home didn't help, and the time frame 1971-1972 of my being that age didn't help as the gay liberation movement was still very new, and with very little gay "role models" on tv, and what was on tv was negative and made fun of us. The language came, for me, at 13 when the teasing, bullying, name calling in high school and even then I was, "Oh that is what that is." I'm one of those gay men that never dated girls, never kissed one besides my mom, granny, & aunts. Certainly never had sex with any girl & had absolutely no desire to either. NONE!

I'm also one of those gay men that started playing with my ass very early, versus jerking off. Like extra time soaping it in the shower, fingering it, rubbing it. The neighbor boy my age we'd play show me yours, I'll show you mine but it was our asses not our cocks. Fingering it initially came, by pushing the soap into me as I bathed, rubbing plastic bottles against it.... the list goes on. About 15 I knew my first time having sex was going to be with a guy, and I knew I was going to bottom. That's my first point.

1. Decide your going to bottom. 

        I also knew at 15, even never having sex with a guy that all I wanted to do was bottom. It was my mind set, if you will. I know a tender age to decide you're going to pussy, but it's the truth. As I've said in previous posts I waited till I was 18 till I had sex with a guy, who ended up my lover for almost 3 years.  I never topped him. He was kind, patient, tender, slow, passionate and everything I needed that first time.

It's all about mind set. You know already you're attracted to guys, maybe even certain "types" of guys. The type that makes you hornier than all get out. Mind set and acceptance of who as well as what you are in imperative. But beyond that is how you go about doing it. As I said in my personal history it was a process, a slow one for me and until March of 2020 after seeing a gay video on Pornhub where the bottom was called pussy, I didn't know the term pussyboy existed. Back in my day it was power bottom. That was enough, and henny I was a big ole power bottom.

2. NEVER feel shame for being gay, or being a pussyboy, or being a fag. EVER! Acceptance for being gay has exploded for the most part; however, with that said despite our strides ---even in our very own community--- bottom shaming runs rampant. We are seen as less than, weaker than, not equal too blah, blah, blah, blah. I say horse shit! Without bottoms tops are just wanking off, period. But also in this thinking. we can't be full bottoms with out tops. So there we are. Take pride in being a bottom, or even a pussyboy, read my posts on being a pussyboy as there is a difference.

Being pussy, however, I think is the full embracement of the idea of being submissive, passive, pleasing. The idea of we thrive, blossom, grow when we are getting fucked--- or in some circles the term is cunted. It's acknowledging that for many of us we don't feel or full selves without being of use to another men in sex or even servitude, like making our man breakfast. It's embracing a feminine or even non-gendered language above and beyond a cold, clinical one: asshole, hole, rectum for ----pussy, cunt, snatch, twat, and mangina (which I hate by the way)--- which in my opinion can be either gender or neither--- and possibly adding boy or man to them-- boycunt, as an example.

Being pussy also implies that your pussy is your TRUE sex organ, and not your dick like every man that walks the planet. That it is ONLY your pussy that brings you bliss, joy, relief, calm, happiness and yes even fulfillment. Your (prostate orgasms or full body orgasms) or as I call em pussygasms, others call them fagasm's are enough, and that "ruined orgasms", or dribbling, or completely hands free ejaculations are enough.

3. Use your "new" language while having sex. Simple enough, right? Nope, not that easy I was terrfied out of my mind using, "Fuck my pussy" the first time with a random top I didn't know in the least. Thank goddess he was into it. I was very nervous saying it. As I mentioned in point 2 I NEVER use anything but "fem" terms to describe what I have. It does get easier the more you say them. My tip here is if your in dating apps state your a pussyboy, those knowledgable will know to use that language.

4. Might sound silly, but find a core group of other pussyboys---- your sisters, if you will---- for friendship, support, encouragement, advice, tips, tricks of trade, to gossip with, share tops with; and believe this or not some of us adore playing with others like ourselves---- because the sessions can be completely hot as we know truly know what to do to ourselves or even others to make pussy happy. Try it you might like it. They can help in shaving to if that's your thing, or just have some fun with true kindred spirits. 

5. Might seem like a no brainer, but here it goes.... play with your pussy and often! I can't tell you the number of bottoms I talk to on Twitter who don't own a dildo or pussy plug. It's baffling. At this point you know your pussy. You identify that way. Why aren't you playing in it? There's this idea that tops/Daddies love loose pussy. It's true! They want a pussy they can rut in, plow stupid, and fuck silly, A tight pink hole of a pussy would faint in fright at the mere thought of such treatment. And with COVID-19, and so many self-isolating for many reasons, it presents the perfect time to get that dildo out, grease your pussy, and stretch it so when you want screwed senseless you can take it. See more in my advice to virgin pussyboys.

6. Finally, be proud of who you are at every level, for this is how you were made. Plain and simple. No living in fear, shame, regret, doubt or anything else. We get one life. Enjoy it. To the best of your ability live authentically. Other people don't like it so fucking what. It's their issue on yours!

Advice for virgin male bottoms

 

So, I've had my share here lately with gay/bisexual/curious/down low/married guys who want or feel the need to bottom but are virgins, with either none to little experience. So I thought as someone who is nearing fifty four years old (November 16th, 2020 if your curious) and who has been bottoming since he was eighteen that I have sage advice for those in this situation.

1. As I've said before in other posts in the past, I knew that my very first sexual experience was going to be with a man, and that I was going to bottom that first time; even though I never had anything more than just my fingers in my ass up until that first time. I was very lucky my first time. He was patient, kind, tender, loving, attentive and made the entire experience enjoyable, pleasurable with as little pain as possible. That was a feat into itself as he was 9 cut inches. However, not everyone will or can have the experience I had that first time. I wish they could. 

With that all said, my first bit of advice is to buy yourself a life sized, or slightly smaller dildo. Can be even something from somewhere like Ambiance or an adult bookstore if you're fortunate to have one in your area. Don't spend the big bucks yet on a dildo, in my opinion, that will come. I say buy yourself a dildo because YOU fully control the ENTIRE scene: how much you take into yourself, the speed, the thrusting action or lack thereof with your dildo acting more like butt-plug, the length of time you use it and anything else you can possibly think of when it comes to being fucked my a real dick. Of course the only thing missing is that dildo cumming in you, but you could rub, or even fuck some of your own semen into yourself to get used to that feeling as well. The options here are endless.

With your dildo, I would set time aside for "exercises", meaning bluntly opening yourself up anally so if your first top decides to pound you stupid you can take it without feeling like you're dying from being ripped open. I'd practice thrusts: depth, frequency, speed, length of time, rotating it in--- you get the idea hopefully; which is trying to mimic an actual man fucking you. Start out slow to get used to it, build up speed, length of time you "workout", depth and yes even how many times a week you use your dildo. Listen to your body, your needs and listen most importantly (in my opinion) to the budding voice of your "pussy". You could add into this one the use of butt plugs, and the same ideas apply, with the addition of wearing it during your day for any length of time including extended wear i.e. like four hours or more. The more you use your "budding pussy" the more you'll be ready for that first real dick in you.

2. A silly as this may sound, and it may; get used to sleeping with no bottoms on AT ALL. Basically nude from at least waist down. I've done this since I was like thirteen because I liked the feeling. After that first time of my being fucked though, and him becoming my lover I instantly KNEW he HAD to have full, unimpeded access to my "budding pussy" as I slept. A lot, if not all tops love this idea. My guy used to love falling asleep with his dick buried in me after fucking me, and I grew to love it and needed it to sleep. He was also the type to fuck me in the middle of the night, or wake me up rimming me wildly first thing in the morning. This one in my opinion is an easy one. You get cold add a blanket, or two or even flannel sheets which I'm partial too all year round. This also gives you, even being single, that if you wake up in the middle of the night to say roll over; you have the wonderful opportunity of gliding your fingers over your "budding pussy" and playing in it which I do a lot.

3. Shower shots/enemas. Get used to them. Buy them, either the disposable Fleet Enemas, the red enema bag like your Grandma may have used, or the handy Shower shot attachment to your shower head. Going to be very blunt here, by saying nobody/ or very, very, very few guys like fucking an ass that is not clear/clean of shit. Period. For huge numbers of tops it's a HUGE turnoff. A clean "budding pussy" is a happy one. Luke warm water, till the water runs absolutely clear. Hot water physicians warn IS NOT ever recommended. Use the toilet to dispel the water and preferably not your shower, at least in the very beginning, as believe it or not you could end up clogging up your shower pipes. Once "larger" debris is expelled it is ok to use the shower. Many also find using the enema bag or shower shot as an additional way of opening up your "anal cavity/pussy" and over time some bottoms, believe it or not dribble precum "cleaning out", myself included. Many also see it as a bit of foreplay as it can relax your pussy muscles.

Going to add here even if it's not enema related the importance of diet and being a good "budding pussy." Lots of fruits, vegetables and of course fiber or fiber supplements. All of which helps keep one clean as well. Eating meat products especially, sit a lengthy time in the stomach/bowels and many bottoms refuse to eat meat products days before a sexual trysts so cleaning out is easier.

4. Being hairless. While not a necessity I've discussed in a previous post ways to remove hair if you wish to do so, however there are oodles of guys who love a fuzzy guy. It's all a matter of taste for you and them as well. So don't fret this one, and see my post on hair removal if it's your thing.

5. Language. This one might seems stupid, but for me since March of 2020 it has been the very cornerstone of my thinking as a pussyboy. I've fully & wonderfully embraced the power of language when it comes to my body parts. I don't ever use medical jargon, or even standardized jargon for what I have any more. Meaning I only use "feminine" terms: pussy, cunt, snatch, gash although it ends there as I hate using mangina ---- and dicklet, nub, or even clit for what's up front. Might seem of no importance to many, but for me it empowers me to focus on my one true sex organ my pussy and who as well as what I am at my core. I use these terms because I'm fully submissive, passive, adore getting fucked senseless and yes even bred. I feel as if it's an innate part of my identity and without it I'm not much of anything. Being pussy is part of my DNA, my soul, and to a huge degree even my very own gender: they/them, girlie-boy/faggot, pussy if your curious. It took years of bottoming to get to this point, lots of research into the term & thinking of pussyboys, soul searching, and yes even acceptance to get to this point. But, I've never been happier. You might want to seriously think about this one.

6. Condoms/PREP/bareback sex.  First I want to say there is this move to not use the term "bareback" sex anymore and instead use "natural sex" or just "sex". The term simply came about because of the advent of HIV/AIDS and sex without condoms, and those wishing to change the language partially wish to do so because HIV/AIDS has become a life-time, chronic, manageable disease. July 16th, 2021 I'll have lived 30 years with AIDS myself so I understand the switch. For me the language is not of importance but your decision if you participate in condomless sex or not. You need to have an open, brutally honest conversation with your tops about both of your sexual histories if your worried about STD's. Know that person is being honest or go on PREP to prevent HIV/AIDS. I'm not going to discuss someone trying to "get HIV/AIDS" or bugchasing as it is called here that might be another post. The decision of using or not using condoms is yours, and don't be forced into something you don't wish to do.

Interview with @Jockfag79 of Twitter

@jockfag79: I'm getting a lot more confident since I started full-time chastity and posting on Twitter. I'm getting lots of compliments

me: you should, looking at your content I LOVE it!!!!

@jockfag79: I'm having a HELL of a lot of fun showing off on here.

me: I bet. I haven't gotten that brave yet, to tweet myself, not fully anyway.

@jockfag79: A lot of stuff for me this year has been about being brave and going what I want/need instead playing it safe.

me: Mine has been empowering other pussyboys.

@jockfag79: And I love that you're doing that! There's too much fantasy and kink that denigrates pussyboys/fags, and while I get that eveybody has their kinks, that one bothers me. I'm not worthless and I'm not pathetic. Perverted as fuck, maybe...

me: Exactly! Submissive/passive sure, but I don't shit for being me.

@jockfag79: Exactly, and I sure enjoy some verbal abuse from time to time, but it doesn't reflect my self worth.

me. EXACTLY! That's the point. I can get into the "games" of word play, but it doesn't mean they are me, or affect me either; as you said we have worth.

@jockfag79: I like feeling dirty and exposed, but that's different. Yeah... without getting into language theory and things like semiotics, words can have power... but they don't HAVE to have power.

me: Preach! There's a huge difference and so man people miss that point.

@jockfag79: Besides, without us, tops would be up sit creek.

me. Hallelujer! I've said that, or close to that so many times.

@jockfag79: It takes work and skill to be a useful sex object for tops. Being a hot top is easy: be halfway attractive and have a hard dick. Being a hot sub is a lot harder. Love the essay on #3rdgenderpussy, btw! It's something I'd been kind of thinking for a while, that being a faggot is a gender more than a sexual role.

me. Me too. I just began reading that Magnus Hirshfeld was saying that in 1897!

@jockfah79: DAMN!

me: It's kind of both for me, sexual and gender.

@jockfag79: Oh it's definitely sexual.

me: Thank goddess, huh?

@jockfag79: Haha, really. Having a pussy feels so good.

me: Sure does and I love having one!

@jockfag79: Since I locked up and got claimed, I've been using my toys a LOT more.

me: I've really been pondering locking up. I call toy play my pussy workouts.

@jockfag: It's definitely a workout.

me: The only word for me that DOES have power, and summarizes who I am inside and out is pussy or cunt (twat even) for it is WHO I am and what I have without having to physically or surgically change anything about me.

@jockfag79: I haven't found any single word that fits perfectly, so I don't get too worked up over any of them.

me: for me it's anything "fem" about my "hole".

@jockfag79: I definitely prefer to use pussy or cunt to refer to it. Anything that emphasizes that it's meant to receive cocks

me: That's my thinking too, anything else doesn't really embrace or emphasize that we are meant to receive cocks, or that we love doing it.

@jockfag79: Part of what I like about "fag/faggot" is that it encourages some humiliation and verbal abuse... but for some tops that's all they see.

me: How did caging change your thinking?

@jockfag79: Well, it kind of makes SEX the #1 thing in my mind, all the time. It's always there even when I'm doing other things. But because I can't use or even feel the thing inside the cage, "sex" doesn't have anything to do with it, or with penetrating, or with having an orgasm. "Sex" starts to mean being penetrated, being used for the pleasure and satisfaction of someone else, being displayed/shown off/exposed for the pleasure of someone else, turned into an object that exists for other men's pleasure. And the longer I'm caged, the more intense that feeling gets. It's not enough to fuck myself on a dildo: I need Men to watch me fucking myself on the dildo.

me: Is that when you fully accepted the idea of just being a pussy for men?

@jockfag79: Because they can enjoy the sight and be turned on by it. Yeah.

me: Enough to fuck you as well. So for somebody like me, whose never been caged, would you recommend it? Cautions?

@jockfag79: I mean, I love being caged and I'd recommend it. If you're at all curious, you should try it. I think the main cautions are:

1. Don't pressure yourself to go a long time at first, or even ever. Full-time chastity is a hot fantasy for some of us, but it's not always possible and some guys don't handle it that well. It's a personal thing.

And 2, it might take a few tries to get the right cage. The first cage I had was WAY too big. That meant I could move around in it, which caused chafing, and it looked like I was seriously packing in my pants, which felt completely wrong for someone whose sexuality is about their holes. Some guys move to smaller cages gradually, but unless you're really hung it probably isn't necessary. I'm average sized but my tiny metal cage feels great. It's comfortable, it's easy to wear, it doesn't get in the way. If I try to get hard it pulls on my balls and hurts like HELL. For me that feels appropriate, because it's probably going to be effective at teaching me not to get hard, but other guys might be really bothered by it.

me: What about shrinkage?

@jockfag79: I haven't seen any conclusive evidence that permanent shrinkage is a thing. A lot of us fantasize about it, but anatomy suggests it doesn't work that way. If you were locked up for 5 years, yeah, it would be small when you unlocked, but if you left it unlocked and kept getting hard, it ought to regain its normal size eventually.

The other caution would be that a cage usually changes how you pee, and a cage that's too big will make it messier. With a smaller cage, you can line up all the appropriate holes and they stay lined up pretty well. You might not be able to pee standing up, but things will be cleaner.

Having to sit down helps emphasize the "feminine" side, so it's yet one more way that your sexual role is reinforced in your mind.

All pics from @jockfag79 with his permission