How I can make my boy pussy as accessible and pleasurable for men as possible?

The full question I got recently is: "How can I make my boy  pussy as accessible and pleasurable for men as possible? I mean I have sex pretty often, but I want to get bred full of cum and maybe even piss <lol>. Used and abused."

There are a couple of things I want to say here. A few different ideas, and of course "address in the elephant in the room." The elephant of course is COVID-19, which for many has abruptly ended their sex life; forcing many to only "toy"/dildo use and while enough for some guys it is also sadly lacking for many others. Speaking for myself, I went into self isolation in March and only partially came out of it about two months ago. But for me, it is where I fully embraced myself, my identity as a pussyboy even though I've bottomed for years, where my embracing the language and thinking of pussyboys came from. It also brought my first prostrate orgasm and first hands free ejaculation. COVID-19 brought about a lot of self discovery and not just sexually. COVID-19 also for many hookup sites like Adam4Adam has dried up completely, and made connections impossible. The temporary bar closures and even limited hours didn't help any either. The closure of bath houses/sex clubs made it even worse.

There is a tip in my advice to bottom virgins about toy/dildo play that could apply here, as at the very least keep you "in prime working order", if you will. Although many of us grew tired and frustrated with only dildo play for months on end. I think however it can, and should be a normal part of your "sex life". The more familiar with and acquainted with how your boypussy works the better the sex you'll have. Also be willing to try different lengths and girths of dildos as each feels different, makes you respond differently, different sensations and many adore the "stretching" process. You'll know. My advice is go slow, they say quarter-inch increments at a time. Again if this is your "thing".

Diet and enema's as discussed in the same post would apply here. So would staying hairless, if that is your thing and that can be seen in the hair remover post from earlier in the blog. Some may even add exercise to this, as a fit boy is a happy one, and a fit boy is better "equipped" in the sack--- or so they say.

Access in my mind is not just being physically ready for bottoming at the drop of a hat but also mentally ready as well and that is different for everybody. It's the head space where your thinking more sexually than rationally, and that can be a good thing and a bad thing too. A lot of it depends on the individual person, unfortunately shame, guilt or doubts play a role when they should not. I'm not much into thinking a sexual compulsion, or even sexual addiction is a bad thing. It can be a great thing. Follow your inner voice, and needs--- I say listen to the needs of your pussy. Who am I to say to little is too little, or to much is too much? That varies too. For some getting fucked stupid twenty times a week is not enough, for others it's way too much.

As far as the mind/thinking go STOP feeling any shame or guilt for being a bottom. That's just crazy in my book. Tops needs bottoms and bottoms need tops. Without one the other doesn't really exist now does it? Also STOP feeling guilt for the amount of sex you have. I don't care if it's some crazy number. Guilt over sex is a religious concept, created and promoted by men--- repressed men with too much time on their hands in my opinion who should be having sex, or at the very least masturbating. Shame can ruin you. It's not worth it. It wastes your time and energy. Don't feel any of it!

I'd say post in online hookup apps, chatrooms for some hookups too although I think for many that's gone to the wayside too, cruise gay bars if you can or if open, sex clubs and bath houses are an option too--- if open as well. Some say they have luck posting for "partners/hookups" on Twitter. I've never been big on cruising toilets or parks as the risk of arrest is too high for me. If push comes to shove some even resort to hiring a pro, an escort--- if that is your thing. I'd check local laws as in some areas hiring an escort can be illegal.

If you feel at risk for HIV/AIDS go on PREP, get tested and for the rest of sexually transmitted diseases. Knowledge is power. 

Join a gay group: from baseball, to a gay community center group, again if they are available do to COVID-19.

I'm also one of those guys who always, always free-ball's or wears assless underwear for easier access, might sound silly--- but the less I have to take off, or put back on the happier I am.

As far as the used and "abused" idea goes be brutally honest with the guy/guys you are with about your desires, fantasies and yes, even your "needs". They will either be into it, or run fleeing. That's them though and not you, so DON'T take on their rejection of a bit "rougher" play. 

Set your limits, set your safe word and boundaries and have fun. There's this crazy notion that the tops set all of those ideas/rules as we are the "submissive" ones. That's a bunch of crap, especially in the case of a new relationship or "trick" who knows very little, or nothing about you. As the sub we set the rules, the guidelines, how far we want to go as we know our limits. We also have the right to say NO at anytime and the right to ask them to leave, especially if their just a trick, at anytime. I'm also going to say if the top crosses those lines it's abuse. Abuse is abuse is abuse--- uncalled for, unwanted, not agreed to or forced upon us is just wrong. Get out of that situation as fast as you can! 

https://1in6.org/helpline/  or call 1-877-628-1in6 the National Helpline for Men Who Were Sexually Abused or Assaulted

How can I best find a daddy?

A Twitter follower DM'ed me this question today, and I have some insight and a little bit of history how I found the two greatest loves of my life.

As I said in a previous post I met my first lover in a gay bar. I was a cocktail waiter, he was a stripper. i was not quite 19 he was 36. We had three wonderful years before he died of AIDS in 1988. I wasn't even 21 when he died, and it left me totally destroyed.

The second man I met in 1992 because he took care of a mutual friend that died of AIDS in his home, surrounded by friends and family. We met because I wanted to make a panel for him for the AIDS Quilt. We hit it off instantly, had a commitment ceremony the following year and were together for 10 glorious years before he died of HIV Complications.

Years ago you cruised bars, baths, parks, gay campgrounds, the beaches, even grocery stores, or any were gay men gathered. The Advocate and other gay magazines and newspapers had ads in them--- way before internet. Friends would introduce you to men, set up blind dates. Some LGBTQ community centers would have single nights. It seemed easier.

Then the internet, changed everything. The advancement of cell phones changed the dating landscape even more. Some say for the better, some say for the worse. I guess it depends on your point of view, and if you're wanting a hook up, versus a date, versus something much longer. 

I think upfront honesty is key. An open dialogue sets the stage to wherever your connection takes you. Lay out your wants, needs, desires, even fantasies. I know it's risky, but it could pay off big time in the long haul. I'm still a bit "old fashioned" in meeting people, a few hook ups online, but I'm more the type to strike up a conversation in person wherever it is we run into each other, especially if it's clearly a "gay" area. I've had a few friends try to set me up too, god bless them for trying. I think it's hard to have good dialogue online, but maybe that's me, and maybe it's because I'm 54 and not 24. Mind you not that 54 is over the hill, as it is not. But social media has seriously impacted they way we connect with other people for the better and for the worse. Nothing beats getting together with friends at your home over food in my opinion. You can't really do that on your cell or laptop.

There are so many options to with gay groups like" baseball, bowling, football, gay pride events or volunteer or help organize the event, gay support groups---- you get the idea. Bars are still an option if you ask me, gay friendly churches from Metropolitan Community Churches, to gay groups in Jewish temples to even Dignity a gay Catholic group.

Get yourself out there, and fun. I always found for me, that I found love when I wasn't even really looking.

More Than I Bargained For?

 Question: I said I was a sub bottom, and when asked said I would obey, and then when I go over to his place there are actually 3 guys that was never mentioned, is this OK? He says when I was asked my limits I did not say anything about it, so He is right. Is it ok that I stayed?

There's a few things here that I think need addressed.

First, you're under the assumption that the guy you are into, that it is just going to be him, not him and three unknown others. It could be construed a bit missing leading to some, while others would take it as very misleading. Some may have even fled in horror. However, with that said, many may have found the other three guys as a "perk", if you will, especially if they were versatile and willing to top you, if that is what you wanted. I would also add here, does he assume that you'll be submissive to the others as well, and you need to know this up front. That for many by itself is a deal breaker, as you hadn't planned on "pleasing" four men. However, then again, for some it is a big bonus.

Next, I think the key for me would have been if I was attracted to the "extra guys", or if I was feeling especially a whore out for a great time. But then too I may not have even thought about too much about the other guys, and what drew me in the first place the "daddy" I was going to serve. Since, I'm the whore type I would have see the whole thing as a huge turn especially if I left with added loads in me. For me though, and it is a bit "challenging" to say this, so bear with me, but as awful as this may sound it isn't so much about the guy or the guys I end up with but the outcome of the connection---meaning my getting fucked and bred, end of story. There have been times especially in a sex club setting I never see their face, but then again without my glasses on my distance vision is not the greatest. For me it's more about serving them to get my needs met, and I'll do what I need to, to make that happen. Have I turned guys away, yeah I have.... and maybe that's a different topic entirely.

Obeying four guys can be challenging, especially if they are competitive in nature. How do you split the time between them? All at once, one at a time, in pairs; there are so many options to this and all of them with unique and different outcomes and varying degrees of pleasure for everyone involved. However, before my clothes came off I'd be very clear what my limits are, what my safe word is and if those are crossed that I'm out of here.

My big thing here is he should have mentioned three others, even if briefly, to see if it's something you were into. However, that in and of itself, especially if you're the shy type may have scared you away. It would have made the beginning a bit smoother, if you will; you a bit more prepared as well. Hopefully, somehow, everyone either verbally or through body language and or actions got what they wanted as well. Here you are though at his house, making the trip, walking through his door, knowing your going to get fucked, and bingo----- three more guys. Lord knows how this turned out, and I'm truly hoping to your best advantage. But being the whore I am I would have seen the whole thing as a mini orgy, and me hopefully the only pussyboy.

You chose to stay, you had your reasons, your motives, and your goals for that period of time and whatever the outcome--- even if that meant more than four loads up your boypussy, you shouldn't feel ashamed, embarrassed, or taken advantage of. Hopefully the heat of the moment is what drove the affair, hopefully you got what you wanted or needed as well as them. You followed your "gut", if you will; or maybe you listened to the still small voice of your pussy..... I know I would have.