Training Manual for fags and/or Alpha's

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recently got this question on Twitter: 

"Mate is there such a thing as a training manual for faggots? Or something which alpha lads can read to educate them about the differences between alphas and fags?"

So, I'm going to start with the easiest answer first; which is follow my Twitter @BBbttmwhore53 as my feed is all about being a pussyboy, from my perspective as one. Meme's, storied gifs, and retweets I feel fit my theme for Twitter. Guys seem to love it, and I love doing it. Everything about being a pussy boy without the shame, guilt, fear or the degrading aspects that some view us as worthless. It's all positive, reinforcing and hopefully encouraging.

I also run a list on my Twitter called: "Training accounts 4 fags" twitter.com/i/lists/1282439061043589120  which are accounts I feel support my ideas about being the proper pussyboy/sub and support the idea that we are not worthless. There are 190 Twitter accounts associated with that list

Next is this very blog, granted it's new but I talk at length, in greater detail about my thoughts, my experiences, my perspectives of being boy pussy and everything I can up with or answer from followers, like you.

@TeachingSubs on Twitter takes the attitude: "Conditioning a sub takes hard work and dedication. After enough conditioning the sky is the limit! Dominate your submissive and it will surrender itself." A very clear homoerotic account.

@HeirachyPcast on Twitter: "The podcast dealing with human Hierarchy truth. He also runs a website called, "Fags Worship Alphas" http://fagsworshipalphas.com/ He's also written a book, "May I Serve You Sir" by Sam Duncan. Both the Twitter and his blog are very homocentric.

These were found with a fast search on Amazon. I'd read the reviews/comments before purchase.

"Ask the Man Who Owns Him" by David Stein available at: https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Man-Who-Owns-Him/dp/098236931X/ref=pd_sim_14_1/139-2511822-0887204?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=098236931X&pd_rd_r=c895ca95-8fb3-4b49-b9b2-c083fd31d912&pd_rd_w=9YC1w&pd_rd_wg=o9mrg&pf_rd_p=d338b989-51db-4d99-9bd8-988f67d205eb&pf_rd_r=CPRE8KTHDGEN555WS0R1&psc=1&refRID=CPRE8KTHDGEN555WS0R1

"Slavecraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude" by Guy Baldwin at: https://www.amazon.com/Slavecraft-Roadmaps-Erotic-Servitude-Principles/dp/1881943143/ref=pd_bxgy_img_2/139-2511822-0887204?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1881943143&pd_rd_r=b0221b4a-756b-46f8-a4f8-36a91726cea6&pd_rd_w=0MZLC&pd_rd_wg=OnQOJ&pf_rd_p=ce6c479b-ef53-49a6-845b-bbbf35c28dd3&pf_rd_r=VJYQM7GF6JFAKZJ0MT01&psc=1&refRID=VJYQM7GF6JFAKZJ0MT01

"The Ties that Bind" by Guy Baldwin at: https://www.amazon.com/Ties-that-Bind-Leather-Commentaries/dp/1881943097/ref=pd_bxgy_img_2/139-2511822-0887204?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1881943097&pd_rd_r=c2e6e696-5287-40cc-815e-3d0eda47175f&pd_rd_w=QoYpR&pd_rd_wg=iUqII&pf_rd_p=ce6c479b-ef53-49a6-845b-bbbf35c28dd3&pf_rd_r=4S1XCZPF7FY54P6PCJSR&psc=1&refRID=4S1XCZPF7FY54P6PCJSR

"The Master's Manuel" by Jack Rinella at: https://www.amazon.com/Masters-Manual-Handbook-Dominance-1994-08-01/dp/B01FIXDVF4/ref=pd_sbs_14_5/139-2511822-0887204?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B01FIXDVF4&pd_rd_r=c9d4c6d8-03a7-458c-80c1-6aabe675c4a0&pd_rd_w=fpfjq&pd_rd_wg=6ppbr&pf_rd_p=b65ee94e-1282-43fc-a8b1-8bf931f6dfab&pf_rd_r=7JWYVKMM40H7RGF27GBN&psc=1&refRID=7JWYVKMM40H7RGF27GBN

"Dom's Guide to Submissive Training" by Elizabeth Cramer. However with a "straight couple on the cover I'm not sure if she covers gay thinking. Link found here: https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Submissive-Training-Step-step/dp/1494236257/ref=pd_bxgy_img_2/139-2511822-0887204?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1494236257&pd_rd_r=dc02fefd-70ab-477a-9629-92d68e4fbf6e&pd_rd_w=mJuS0&pd_rd_wg=vprrc&pf_rd_p=ce6c479b-ef53-49a6-845b-bbbf35c28dd3&pf_rd_r=YPZJ5FT2B2GZ3F3SJ5DT&psc=1&refRID=YPZJ5FT2B2GZ3F3SJ5DT

I'm sure this a scratch on the surface, but it's a beginning. We all start our journey's somewhere, someway; and what is so wonderful about it is that our journey is uniquely and wonderfully our own. Now two journeys are the same, and that is ok! We all wouldn't want to be the same. Be open minded, be adventurous, journal your thoughts-feeling-emotions-fantasies-experiences, be bold, be courageous and finally slowly find yourself. Your gut will tell you, you're on the right path. That's how it all started with me and discovering the word pussyboy at 54 yo years old. So anything is possible. Good luck!

the dichotomy of boipussy vs. boycunt

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How I can make my boy pussy as accessible and pleasurable for men as possible?

The full question I got recently is: "How can I make my boy  pussy as accessible and pleasurable for men as possible? I mean I have sex pretty often, but I want to get bred full of cum and maybe even piss <lol>. Used and abused."

There are a couple of things I want to say here. A few different ideas, and of course "address in the elephant in the room." The elephant of course is COVID-19, which for many has abruptly ended their sex life; forcing many to only "toy"/dildo use and while enough for some guys it is also sadly lacking for many others. Speaking for myself, I went into self isolation in March and only partially came out of it about two months ago. But for me, it is where I fully embraced myself, my identity as a pussyboy even though I've bottomed for years, where my embracing the language and thinking of pussyboys came from. It also brought my first prostrate orgasm and first hands free ejaculation. COVID-19 brought about a lot of self discovery and not just sexually. COVID-19 also for many hookup sites like Adam4Adam has dried up completely, and made connections impossible. The temporary bar closures and even limited hours didn't help any either. The closure of bath houses/sex clubs made it even worse.

There is a tip in my advice to bottom virgins about toy/dildo play that could apply here, as at the very least keep you "in prime working order", if you will. Although many of us grew tired and frustrated with only dildo play for months on end. I think however it can, and should be a normal part of your "sex life". The more familiar with and acquainted with how your boypussy works the better the sex you'll have. Also be willing to try different lengths and girths of dildos as each feels different, makes you respond differently, different sensations and many adore the "stretching" process. You'll know. My advice is go slow, they say quarter-inch increments at a time. Again if this is your "thing".

Diet and enema's as discussed in the same post would apply here. So would staying hairless, if that is your thing and that can be seen in the hair remover post from earlier in the blog. Some may even add exercise to this, as a fit boy is a happy one, and a fit boy is better "equipped" in the sack--- or so they say.

Access in my mind is not just being physically ready for bottoming at the drop of a hat but also mentally ready as well and that is different for everybody. It's the head space where your thinking more sexually than rationally, and that can be a good thing and a bad thing too. A lot of it depends on the individual person, unfortunately shame, guilt or doubts play a role when they should not. I'm not much into thinking a sexual compulsion, or even sexual addiction is a bad thing. It can be a great thing. Follow your inner voice, and needs--- I say listen to the needs of your pussy. Who am I to say to little is too little, or to much is too much? That varies too. For some getting fucked stupid twenty times a week is not enough, for others it's way too much.

As far as the mind/thinking go STOP feeling any shame or guilt for being a bottom. That's just crazy in my book. Tops needs bottoms and bottoms need tops. Without one the other doesn't really exist now does it? Also STOP feeling guilt for the amount of sex you have. I don't care if it's some crazy number. Guilt over sex is a religious concept, created and promoted by men--- repressed men with too much time on their hands in my opinion who should be having sex, or at the very least masturbating. Shame can ruin you. It's not worth it. It wastes your time and energy. Don't feel any of it!

I'd say post in online hookup apps, chatrooms for some hookups too although I think for many that's gone to the wayside too, cruise gay bars if you can or if open, sex clubs and bath houses are an option too--- if open as well. Some say they have luck posting for "partners/hookups" on Twitter. I've never been big on cruising toilets or parks as the risk of arrest is too high for me. If push comes to shove some even resort to hiring a pro, an escort--- if that is your thing. I'd check local laws as in some areas hiring an escort can be illegal.

If you feel at risk for HIV/AIDS go on PREP, get tested and for the rest of sexually transmitted diseases. Knowledge is power. 

Join a gay group: from baseball, to a gay community center group, again if they are available do to COVID-19.

I'm also one of those guys who always, always free-ball's or wears assless underwear for easier access, might sound silly--- but the less I have to take off, or put back on the happier I am.

As far as the used and "abused" idea goes be brutally honest with the guy/guys you are with about your desires, fantasies and yes, even your "needs". They will either be into it, or run fleeing. That's them though and not you, so DON'T take on their rejection of a bit "rougher" play. 

Set your limits, set your safe word and boundaries and have fun. There's this crazy notion that the tops set all of those ideas/rules as we are the "submissive" ones. That's a bunch of crap, especially in the case of a new relationship or "trick" who knows very little, or nothing about you. As the sub we set the rules, the guidelines, how far we want to go as we know our limits. We also have the right to say NO at anytime and the right to ask them to leave, especially if their just a trick, at anytime. I'm also going to say if the top crosses those lines it's abuse. Abuse is abuse is abuse--- uncalled for, unwanted, not agreed to or forced upon us is just wrong. Get out of that situation as fast as you can! 

https://1in6.org/helpline/  or call 1-877-628-1in6 the National Helpline for Men Who Were Sexually Abused or Assaulted

I’m struggling to know if I’m a pussyboy/fag. Any advice on how to know and next steps?

 

I'd first start by reading my post on gay bottom virgins as there is insight there that might help, but somehow I feel this question is VERY different from than that of being a virgin, for some reason. Maybe my "Daddy" inkling tendencies are kicking in here.

I knew very early on, like 5 or 6 that I knew I was very different than other boys my age, growing up in a very strict Christian fundamentalist home didn't help, and the time frame 1971-1972 of my being that age didn't help as the gay liberation movement was still very new, and with very little gay "role models" on tv, and what was on tv was negative and made fun of us. The language came, for me, at 13 when the teasing, bullying, name calling in high school and even then I was, "Oh that is what that is." I'm one of those gay men that never dated girls, never kissed one besides my mom, granny, & aunts. Certainly never had sex with any girl & had absolutely no desire to either. NONE!

I'm also one of those gay men that started playing with my ass very early, versus jerking off. Like extra time soaping it in the shower, fingering it, rubbing it. The neighbor boy my age we'd play show me yours, I'll show you mine but it was our asses not our cocks. Fingering it initially came, by pushing the soap into me as I bathed, rubbing plastic bottles against it.... the list goes on. About 15 I knew my first time having sex was going to be with a guy, and I knew I was going to bottom. That's my first point.

1. Decide your going to bottom. 

        I also knew at 15, even never having sex with a guy that all I wanted to do was bottom. It was my mind set, if you will. I know a tender age to decide you're going to pussy, but it's the truth. As I've said in previous posts I waited till I was 18 till I had sex with a guy, who ended up my lover for almost 3 years.  I never topped him. He was kind, patient, tender, slow, passionate and everything I needed that first time.

It's all about mind set. You know already you're attracted to guys, maybe even certain "types" of guys. The type that makes you hornier than all get out. Mind set and acceptance of who as well as what you are in imperative. But beyond that is how you go about doing it. As I said in my personal history it was a process, a slow one for me and until March of 2020 after seeing a gay video on Pornhub where the bottom was called pussy, I didn't know the term pussyboy existed. Back in my day it was power bottom. That was enough, and henny I was a big ole power bottom.

2. NEVER feel shame for being gay, or being a pussyboy, or being a fag. EVER! Acceptance for being gay has exploded for the most part; however, with that said despite our strides ---even in our very own community--- bottom shaming runs rampant. We are seen as less than, weaker than, not equal too blah, blah, blah, blah. I say horse shit! Without bottoms tops are just wanking off, period. But also in this thinking. we can't be full bottoms with out tops. So there we are. Take pride in being a bottom, or even a pussyboy, read my posts on being a pussyboy as there is a difference.

Being pussy, however, I think is the full embracement of the idea of being submissive, passive, pleasing. The idea of we thrive, blossom, grow when we are getting fucked--- or in some circles the term is cunted. It's acknowledging that for many of us we don't feel or full selves without being of use to another men in sex or even servitude, like making our man breakfast. It's embracing a feminine or even non-gendered language above and beyond a cold, clinical one: asshole, hole, rectum for ----pussy, cunt, snatch, twat, and mangina (which I hate by the way)--- which in my opinion can be either gender or neither--- and possibly adding boy or man to them-- boycunt, as an example.

Being pussy also implies that your pussy is your TRUE sex organ, and not your dick like every man that walks the planet. That it is ONLY your pussy that brings you bliss, joy, relief, calm, happiness and yes even fulfillment. Your (prostate orgasms or full body orgasms) or as I call em pussygasms, others call them fagasm's are enough, and that "ruined orgasms", or dribbling, or completely hands free ejaculations are enough.

3. Use your "new" language while having sex. Simple enough, right? Nope, not that easy I was terrfied out of my mind using, "Fuck my pussy" the first time with a random top I didn't know in the least. Thank goddess he was into it. I was very nervous saying it. As I mentioned in point 2 I NEVER use anything but "fem" terms to describe what I have. It does get easier the more you say them. My tip here is if your in dating apps state your a pussyboy, those knowledgable will know to use that language.

4. Might sound silly, but find a core group of other pussyboys---- your sisters, if you will---- for friendship, support, encouragement, advice, tips, tricks of trade, to gossip with, share tops with; and believe this or not some of us adore playing with others like ourselves---- because the sessions can be completely hot as we know truly know what to do to ourselves or even others to make pussy happy. Try it you might like it. They can help in shaving to if that's your thing, or just have some fun with true kindred spirits. 

5. Might seem like a no brainer, but here it goes.... play with your pussy and often! I can't tell you the number of bottoms I talk to on Twitter who don't own a dildo or pussy plug. It's baffling. At this point you know your pussy. You identify that way. Why aren't you playing in it? There's this idea that tops/Daddies love loose pussy. It's true! They want a pussy they can rut in, plow stupid, and fuck silly, A tight pink hole of a pussy would faint in fright at the mere thought of such treatment. And with COVID-19, and so many self-isolating for many reasons, it presents the perfect time to get that dildo out, grease your pussy, and stretch it so when you want screwed senseless you can take it. See more in my advice to virgin pussyboys.

6. Finally, be proud of who you are at every level, for this is how you were made. Plain and simple. No living in fear, shame, regret, doubt or anything else. We get one life. Enjoy it. To the best of your ability live authentically. Other people don't like it so fucking what. It's their issue on yours!

Advice for virgin male bottoms

 

So, I've had my share here lately with gay/bisexual/curious/down low/married guys who want or feel the need to bottom but are virgins, with either none to little experience. So I thought as someone who is nearing fifty four years old (November 16th, 2020 if your curious) and who has been bottoming since he was eighteen that I have sage advice for those in this situation.

1. As I've said before in other posts in the past, I knew that my very first sexual experience was going to be with a man, and that I was going to bottom that first time; even though I never had anything more than just my fingers in my ass up until that first time. I was very lucky my first time. He was patient, kind, tender, loving, attentive and made the entire experience enjoyable, pleasurable with as little pain as possible. That was a feat into itself as he was 9 cut inches. However, not everyone will or can have the experience I had that first time. I wish they could. 

With that all said, my first bit of advice is to buy yourself a life sized, or slightly smaller dildo. Can be even something from somewhere like Ambiance or an adult bookstore if you're fortunate to have one in your area. Don't spend the big bucks yet on a dildo, in my opinion, that will come. I say buy yourself a dildo because YOU fully control the ENTIRE scene: how much you take into yourself, the speed, the thrusting action or lack thereof with your dildo acting more like butt-plug, the length of time you use it and anything else you can possibly think of when it comes to being fucked my a real dick. Of course the only thing missing is that dildo cumming in you, but you could rub, or even fuck some of your own semen into yourself to get used to that feeling as well. The options here are endless.

With your dildo, I would set time aside for "exercises", meaning bluntly opening yourself up anally so if your first top decides to pound you stupid you can take it without feeling like you're dying from being ripped open. I'd practice thrusts: depth, frequency, speed, length of time, rotating it in--- you get the idea hopefully; which is trying to mimic an actual man fucking you. Start out slow to get used to it, build up speed, length of time you "workout", depth and yes even how many times a week you use your dildo. Listen to your body, your needs and listen most importantly (in my opinion) to the budding voice of your "pussy". You could add into this one the use of butt plugs, and the same ideas apply, with the addition of wearing it during your day for any length of time including extended wear i.e. like four hours or more. The more you use your "budding pussy" the more you'll be ready for that first real dick in you.

2. A silly as this may sound, and it may; get used to sleeping with no bottoms on AT ALL. Basically nude from at least waist down. I've done this since I was like thirteen because I liked the feeling. After that first time of my being fucked though, and him becoming my lover I instantly KNEW he HAD to have full, unimpeded access to my "budding pussy" as I slept. A lot, if not all tops love this idea. My guy used to love falling asleep with his dick buried in me after fucking me, and I grew to love it and needed it to sleep. He was also the type to fuck me in the middle of the night, or wake me up rimming me wildly first thing in the morning. This one in my opinion is an easy one. You get cold add a blanket, or two or even flannel sheets which I'm partial too all year round. This also gives you, even being single, that if you wake up in the middle of the night to say roll over; you have the wonderful opportunity of gliding your fingers over your "budding pussy" and playing in it which I do a lot.

3. Shower shots/enemas. Get used to them. Buy them, either the disposable Fleet Enemas, the red enema bag like your Grandma may have used, or the handy Shower shot attachment to your shower head. Going to be very blunt here, by saying nobody/ or very, very, very few guys like fucking an ass that is not clear/clean of shit. Period. For huge numbers of tops it's a HUGE turnoff. A clean "budding pussy" is a happy one. Luke warm water, till the water runs absolutely clear. Hot water physicians warn IS NOT ever recommended. Use the toilet to dispel the water and preferably not your shower, at least in the very beginning, as believe it or not you could end up clogging up your shower pipes. Once "larger" debris is expelled it is ok to use the shower. Many also find using the enema bag or shower shot as an additional way of opening up your "anal cavity/pussy" and over time some bottoms, believe it or not dribble precum "cleaning out", myself included. Many also see it as a bit of foreplay as it can relax your pussy muscles.

Going to add here even if it's not enema related the importance of diet and being a good "budding pussy." Lots of fruits, vegetables and of course fiber or fiber supplements. All of which helps keep one clean as well. Eating meat products especially, sit a lengthy time in the stomach/bowels and many bottoms refuse to eat meat products days before a sexual trysts so cleaning out is easier.

4. Being hairless. While not a necessity I've discussed in a previous post ways to remove hair if you wish to do so, however there are oodles of guys who love a fuzzy guy. It's all a matter of taste for you and them as well. So don't fret this one, and see my post on hair removal if it's your thing.

5. Language. This one might seems stupid, but for me since March of 2020 it has been the very cornerstone of my thinking as a pussyboy. I've fully & wonderfully embraced the power of language when it comes to my body parts. I don't ever use medical jargon, or even standardized jargon for what I have any more. Meaning I only use "feminine" terms: pussy, cunt, snatch, gash although it ends there as I hate using mangina ---- and dicklet, nub, or even clit for what's up front. Might seem of no importance to many, but for me it empowers me to focus on my one true sex organ my pussy and who as well as what I am at my core. I use these terms because I'm fully submissive, passive, adore getting fucked senseless and yes even bred. I feel as if it's an innate part of my identity and without it I'm not much of anything. Being pussy is part of my DNA, my soul, and to a huge degree even my very own gender: they/them, girlie-boy/faggot, pussy if your curious. It took years of bottoming to get to this point, lots of research into the term & thinking of pussyboys, soul searching, and yes even acceptance to get to this point. But, I've never been happier. You might want to seriously think about this one.

6. Condoms/PREP/bareback sex.  First I want to say there is this move to not use the term "bareback" sex anymore and instead use "natural sex" or just "sex". The term simply came about because of the advent of HIV/AIDS and sex without condoms, and those wishing to change the language partially wish to do so because HIV/AIDS has become a life-time, chronic, manageable disease. July 16th, 2021 I'll have lived 30 years with AIDS myself so I understand the switch. For me the language is not of importance but your decision if you participate in condomless sex or not. You need to have an open, brutally honest conversation with your tops about both of your sexual histories if your worried about STD's. Know that person is being honest or go on PREP to prevent HIV/AIDS. I'm not going to discuss someone trying to "get HIV/AIDS" or bugchasing as it is called here that might be another post. The decision of using or not using condoms is yours, and don't be forced into something you don't wish to do.

Should I be cheating on my guy? Should I expose the truth on social media

I was asked this question very recently on my Twitter account and I felt it deserved a longer answer than Twitter would allow, and a thread answer didn't seem the route to go. I have some thoughts on this as well as some experience on the matter.

True monogamy, I think, can exist but it's definitely not easy by any means, not for everyone, and for some people makes them out right miserable.

The Health Research Funding found that:

1. 60% of affairs that begin at work: 60%.
2. Up to 60% of all spouses will take part in some form of infidelity at least once.
3. 56% of men who have affairs claim to be happy in their marriages.
4. Infidelity is becoming more common among people under 30.
5. In many cases, infidelity never gets discovered.
6. Most people are surprised by their own behavior at the start of an affair.
7. Almost everyone admits to having fantasies that involve someone other than a spouse.
8. Cheating is not the leading cause of divorce in the world today. 
9. 50% of husbands who will eventually cheat.
10. Cheating laws are rarely enforced, adultery is considered to be a crime in Michigan, Minnesota, and South Carolina.
11. The percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional: 41%.
12. 22% of men admit to straying at least once while being married.
13. The average length of an extra-marital affair: 2 years.
14. 31%. of marriages that stay together after a cheating spouse has been discovered.
15. 74% of men say that they would have an affair if they knew that they wouldn’t be caught.
16. 17% of cheating spouses have an affair with one of their in-laws..
17. The overall chances that a marriage will have one spouse cheat over the life of the marriage: 1 in 4.

With this all said, I think the debate over whether cheating is right or wrong is boiled down to centuries of religious dogma and not much else. All religious dogma has created this dynamic that it's sinful, unnatural, ungodly---blah, blah, blah. I'm not going to get into a religious debate but this is just a bunch of bunk. Not everybody is religious, not everybody believes in anything beyond here, now and beyond us--- meaning the eternal. You believe great for you but it ends there.

Next is this insane idea that one person can be enough in every way that I don't need to look elsewhere. Uh, ok I guess but that doesn't work either for nearly everyone. I think cheating is innately built, that we are made to do it. I've done it many times, have never been found out. Did I feel guilty, yeah I did after but guess what I did it again.

Some relationships are open to the idea of playing with others, of the "spouse" watching, or doing it together, or being open when it happens. This is not cheating in my mind as the other is fully aware. I've had this too. Worked great, as we knew we still loved each other even with a strangers cum up our asses.

Social media and should I tell. My advice here is ONLY if it's yours with no access to your partners, or friends, or family or coworkers as it could come back and bite you in the ass, as they say. Admit to what your comfortable sharing. If sharing photos/vids I, personally would never show my full face with another guy but that's me. It could work for you but be careful who you know intimately that would have access to it. You don't need blackmailed. Social can be a great thing, it also can be a horrific thing. I think you can figure out your comfort level, as you know you best. Push comes to shove you can always delete it, but it never does fully go away as anybody can save anything.