Four types of bois

Men: so you're fucking a bottom and you're wondering whether he's the kind of boy who can easily be turned into a submissive bitch? There's an easy way to tell. If he doesn't touch his own junk at all without needing to be told not to, he's already got a strong submissive streak. Turning him into your own personal toy and bitch boy will be easy.

Some of these naturally submissive bois will wait until you cum before turning their attention to themselves and their clitties; while others will ask for permission to do that. Which I think should be the norm as it it your tops pleasure you are seeking in the first place and not your own so therefore you never touch your clitty. Yet others may just get dressed, knowing that your load in their pussy is all they need and they leave. Adding their own load would seriously distract from the most important thing to them in this moment and that is once again YOUR pleasure, not theirs.  The only thing that truly matter to them was getting bred, for in you breeding them was their signal that they were truly good pussy that did it's job.

You can usually tell any of these bois that they DON'T have your permission to ejaculate and they will most likely obey without protests. Personally here I think they had their chance of doing that hands free while you were coring out their cunt, and hammering their princess spot/slut button. However, next time you do decide to fuck them. surprise them with a chastity cage and they'll very easily could be all yours--- as for many it is the happiest day of their lives.

There's a second group of bois who will attempt to pleasure themselves while you hammer away at their pussy but will quickly and obediently oblige when you make it clear you don't want them too. They may or may not have a natural submissive streak. It may or may not be as strong as in the first group of bois, or not as quite as developed yet. Either way, these bois can easily be turned into submissive bitch bois with the proper training by you. 

The third group of bois are those who keep reaching for their dicks and will get themselves off without asking permission and could care less what you said, or want from them, even though you've explicitly said they were not allowed. First of all these bois need a bare pussy, over the knee spanking! These bois ca be the hardest to train into a submissive bitch boi, because they may not see themselves that way at all. They may not see themselves as having a pussy, and if that is the case they more than likely may not see their pussy as their only source of pleasure. But when did you ever shy away from a challenge, Daddy? For some Daddy's breaking these defiant bois own will for independence and attachment to their pleasure is the greatest joy of all.

Lastly, is the group of boi's who see themselves as girls; meaning they use all feminine terms for all of their sexual parts as I have discussed here before: pussy, princess spot/slut button for prostrate, testicles become ovaries and of course clitty, nubbin or dicklet. They fully know, accept and celebrate the fact that they have a pussy, that their main pleasure comes from being pussy from men, are beyond thrilled when bred, may dream of becoming pregnant and the only real pleasure they want is their pussy-gasms/prostate orgasms because it means Daddy is really enjoying your pussy then. We may develop an internal liquid with sexual use, for some it turns into a frothy mix, we've all seen in porn and for some of us we enjoy the pussy stretch more than anything so we can be prone to big dildo's or even fisting. As long as pussy is in use we are at our happiest. Daddy's pleasure is our only pleasure, period end of story. We may even call ourselves girls, like I do.

I'll brazenly admit this is the group I'm in. I'm also the type that craves to be "Daddy's good girl", for Daddy to buy me lingerie, thigh highs, garters, lacy crotchless panties, bras, corsets. Maybe a cute skirt with my dress shirt and a cardigan, blurring the line but a clear biological "boi". Think Harry Styles here, or Jayden Smith or even Billy Porter as examples of what I'm trying to say here.

For Daddy's with a girl--- my best advice is marry her! Immediately!

Acceptance, Self love; tips, memes and my thoughts

This morning I woke up thinking about acceptance. Our acceptance or ourselves. I think that is where it all begins, and everything else follows. So, I'll admit I sleep bottomless. Just a t-shirt nothing else, my shoulders get chilly. Have slept that way since I was about fourteen, couldn't stand the confinement. Anyway, the last year since seeing the @BigCMen and @DevinFranco Pornhub vid, where Daddy Cory calls Devin pussy---which I wrote about here... I wake up every morning, first thing; I open my legs wide, reach down between them and pet, pat and lightly spank my pussy and verbally say, "I love my pussy, thank you for being my pussy."

Sometimes, dig out my dildo and poppers and start the day with some "wreckage". A friend last year, during the height of COVID-19 and my four and a half month self isolation suggested this tip too, which I did every day. Three times a day actually:

Strip naked, get on all fours in bitch pose. Pussy up, legs spread wide, back arched, head on the floor and say, "I am pussy and I LOVE myself being pussy." He recommended saying it fifty times in a row, like chanting and I have a string of Hindu prayer beads that I used to keep track of how many times I was saying it.

You can take this a step further, which is what I did and while riding your favorite dildo say "your mantra". Same amount of times or more. Riding a dildo I would say it every single thrust in and out. In my thinking this cemented my place, even though I had 98% bottomed since day one, first sexual experience right out the gate. Of course after hearing the term Daddy Cory used, I stumbled accidentally on the term pussyboy and as a writer, my research went into overkill. I HAD to understand this thinking. HAD to! Once I did, as Ms. Cracker says, "Shabbat, shablam" it all made sense. I had been that all my life and didn't fully know the term or when it become vogue. The mantra's just cleared the way for my full acceptance. Fem terms are the only ones I use now, for me it is WHO I am. It makes sense to me. It's how I view myself. I write this blog and do what I do on Twitter as I want and feel the need to help others, that's my Daddy side.

I want to celebrate, empower, rejoice in and help others like me to, "Live their best bottom life" or better yet, "Their best pussy life." There never needs to be shame, or guilt, or fear, or doubt or dread. NONE of it, do you hear me! This is my Daddy side kicking in here.

 

Submission: Meme's and my thoughts

Submission is the starting point. It’s the mindset required for you to achieve everything you need to fulfill your purpose. Submission isn’t the goal, it isn’t your purpose. It is only the starting point. Submission allows you to empty your brain, allows your Daddy to replace the contents with HIS own thoughts, ideas, opinions, and desires. Submission allows you to accept you are an empty vessel and in need of ownership. Submission is where it all begins, preparing yourself to be molded by Daddy who gives you the gift of allowing you to worship him. Becoming what he deserves. Never thinking of anything beyond what he deserves. That is the goal. Submission is the starting point. 

Receiving= getting fucked. Simply receiving. It looks easy, but there is a lot of training in it. This boi has learned to keep his hands away, keep his legs spread wide. The boi knows that its limp dicklet/clitty/nubbin is irrelevant. Daddy isn’t interested in how the boi is doing. HE isn’t interested in the boi’s enjoyment. He isn’t interested in what the boi is thinking. HE is interested only in the total submission of the boi. HE is interested in the boi’s focus on the Daddy's pleasure only. HE is interested in getting what HE wants, what HE deserves. Boi's, this is all HE ever wants from you, an open, willing, greedy, hungry pussy. Keep your mouth shut unless HIS dick is in it, keep your head empty, and keep submitting, obeying, and being grateful for the opportunity to worship.

Cunting: Memes & my thoughts

    The proper result of a successful cunting is that the former "anus" becomes a puffy boicunt? That beta boi has done well to imitate the shape and power of a pussy, but in the fulfilling process of being cunted changes the mindset of the boi forever. The result of getting fucked and bred so relentlessly and hard by a big cock that makes an asshole become a sloppy cunt. Completely removing any last shred of masculinity they had left.

 As the strong hung alpha man withdraws his thick cock after depositing his sperm inside this freshly cunted true betaboi-pussy, the body immediately responds.. transforming what was once a utility hole into a yearning pleasure pussy and the boi thrives in being pussy, longs to be pussy all the time, realizes his place a pussy. The obviously magical pairing of two people fulfills both those destinies. One strong powerful inseminating alpha male spreading his seed and a submissive beta boi opening his womb and making it conform to please the real men. 

Yes, it is unfortunate that some of the life given sperm leaks out, but rest assured the 100 million+ MAN SEEDS are swimming deep inside and injecting the beta with potent hormones and signaling the body to properly transform. Damn, that boipussy is so properly good. 

As the beta sub finally accepts the proper cunting, as his boipussy stretches to accommodate a real man breeding him. He finally relaxes and his uselss soft clit flops helplessly as the manhood is fucked out of him. It hurts to be aggressively cunted and turned into a nothing more than a masturbation tool for a  man's use. No lube, no condom, no concern for your feelings. His physical pleasure is all that matters. 

Your problem, at the moment, is that the man using you, feels pure joy in busting your hymen. Smashing his cock in you as hard as he can. Way harder than any boipussy should be able to take. He is using and wrecking your pussy for his pleasure, not caring how badly he damages or even destroys your pussy. Your  agony seems to turn him on, making his cock even harder. He pounds you into submission, destroying your ability to ever pretend that you are still a man.

The process of a large man re-sizing and re-purposing your pussy to perfectly fit his thick cock in which you can feel him re-arranging your insides with his dick. The sensation of his cock hammering your ass into shape to serve as his personal, on-call Fleshlite is the most agonizingly amazing feeling you have ever experienced. The only temporary relief from the fucking of being turned into his bespoke cock socket is when he briefly pauses to paints your guts with his nut, before resuming the onslaught.

The worst part of the process isn't even the pain, it's knowing that from now on whenever he gets horny he will be using your stretched out pussy to jerk himself off. Knowing that you have no control of when, where or how he uses you. That this  will occur over and over, whenever he feels like it. This usually followed up with a second extended slow pussy stretching, but allowing the bitch to begin to experience and desire the pleasure of cock, his smooth skin kissing the cunt with each stroke as the "labia" begins to set shape.

In the charmed third time: the final cycle of cunting, complete boipussy creation by explosive breeding by impregnation.. the powerful sperm deposited deep past the now formed labia to filling the betas pussy "womb." This forces the semen and powerful hormones to be absorbed through the pussy walls and triggering complete emotional "ovulation" and permenant clitoral reassignment of the now full pussy.

For pussyboys being cunted is best when freely administered, but some need assistance to break the false programming of society. Most understand intellectually their place, and willfully ask for conversion. These pussyboys should never be ridiculed but celebrated, because even before a true alpha seeds their pussies, they have already been cunted in the most important place, their mind. It is a fait accompli that their soul is properly initiated with a large forceful cock stretching their pussy to full awareness and subsequent consecration of their spirit with the insemination of semen!

Do you think having a micro penis is important for a sub boy?

So a guy I follow on my new Twitter... @CjDale66  asked his followers this question. 

Do you think having a micro penis is important for a sub boy? I want to seriously work on it and I don't know if the alphas appreciate it 

I personally in the last year have come to realize, and have come to a full conclusion that it is VERY important. 

I'll begin by saying I'm a grower. My dick doesn't show! He's a bit of a nubbin limp. Fully hard though I'm 7.5 cut inches. Not huge, but not dinky either. Kind of packing. But as a bottom pussyboy, my dicklet has never fully been my big thing! I'm the kind of guy that doesn't even touch my junk.

That said back in 1988, at the age of 18 I was THEN wearing jocks to hide my junk. The focus, well,  on my pussy. Still, even more so, since last year March learning of the term and realizing I've been that my whole life.

If I wear anything during sex it is a jock, although I tend to call them pussybra's <lol>!

I just bought my first chastity device too. A silicone one. With a decent shaft one it as I'm not sure I'm ready to explore shrinkages, although I find it very erotic. I also don't use masculine terms for my penis. I use clitty, dicklet, and nubbin/nub. I do it as I don't see myself as a MAN, male yes but MAN no. My mind set is very sub, very pussy centric that in and of itself is NOT masculine in my mind. I'm very much 3rd gender as I write about here. Pronouns; he, they, her. I could very easily be Daddy's good girl.

"I'm Daddy's good girl" 

this link is my example of what I mean.  

I, truly, believe this that a Daddy/DOM/MAN doesn't want to really, fully see your dicklet. He wants to see that pussy. Nothing else, especially your alleged "manhood". So hide it away in a jock, Lock it up. Daddy/DOM/MAN certainly doesn't want to see you playing with it as he fucks you, UNLESS and only if he says you can or asks you too. There's only dick if your with that kind of guy and it's HIS, not yours. A lot of THEM want us in chastity too. It forces us to focus on OUR true sex organ.

If they do want to see our dicklets, and especially during fucking us, they want more than anything, I feel, to see our dicklets very limp, flopping around during sex. Caged and flopping around even better, because I feel even then that their thinking is we are focused on serving them even in that situation as our focus is on our pussies, with their dick stuffed in it and doing what we need to do with our pussy to bring them to ejaculation and breeding us.

I really feel so much of this is our mind set as his sub, or as his pussy, or even as his faggot. I also think there are depths to this mind set, meaning deeper thoughts then here. One example: that by doing this things, our sacrificing these things are our way of better serving him and being of service to him. Our needs don't matter in the least, a lot of the time. Our true joy, true fulfillment comes in being the very best us for him in the way HE wants us.

I do find that in the back of my brain that even I want to explore shrinkage, because even in shrinkage we are better serving, and fully serving him. In our shrinkage we become better pussy, that our focus truly is forced to our pussies even more so. Some so go so far as to be mounded... surgically inserted into us, but left with enough out to piss. A few go so far as to have it fully removed, or so I here. That's a whole other thing, for a whole other time...maybe. I think shrinkage also makes us less male, if you will, as virility is based on size.; and for those of us, myself included we don't even see ourselves fully male either. See other posts on this especially the one on being third gender. I see myself as "Daddy's good girl" while being his boi. That make sense? I hope.

My final piece of advice: go get naked, grease up your pussy, grab your poppers, and your favorite porn, and go wreck your pussy for Daddy Charlie.... but leave ur nubbin alone. lol>

can a pussyboy be a Sir/Daddy?

I was recently asked this question online, by own of my followers.

Can a pussyboy be a Sir/Daddy? I think so. You seem to be able to be both. I know you're a pussyboy, but I would submit to you, if we met.

As usual with my posts I'm going to be brutally honest from my perspective and my experience, because I truly think that if we can boldly and bravely talk about those experiences we can learn from each other. With that said:

I have some great sex with scores of guys, how many I don't know as I haven't kept track. However, some of the hottest, most off the chain sex I've had has been with fellow bottom's/pussyboi's. I want to start by saying I think there is a big difference in the thinking from a bottom than that of a pussyboi. There is a mentality and understanding of guy who identifies himself as pussy. I believe I've discussed this issue here before, but I also think that there is an awareness that a pussboi has when it comes to "playing" with others like him.

I say that because I think WE know exactly what to do do when presented a boipussy and how to do it and probably, and this is just my opinion, doing it in ways we as a bottom may have never experienced from someone so aware and attuned into what exactly boipussy likes. Now not every bottom likes playing with his brothers (or sisters, depending on how you view yourself and others like you) but there are those of us, myself included, that thoroughly enjoy it!

Even as a pussyboi, myself, I find nothing hotter than when a guy presents his pussy in the classic bitch pose: his ass high in the air, back arched, legs spread wide open, head and chest on the bed, and arms above his head; oh of course--- as in the picture on the right--- this pose fully exposes his pussy. Finding a guy like this--- the first thing I do is thoroughly eat him out as he moans his head off. I feel that if I stumble across a guy like this that it is my obligation to him to rim him out at the least. More if he gets off on the rim job. Last guy I found like this my face didn't leave his pussy for a solid hour before I came up for air. Now that is a rim job, just saying. I think it takes real skill to eat boipussy properly and while I've never had a direct lesson in doing so, I do it in the ways I like having mine eaten out, or want mine to be eaten out. Just think, what the other person would enjoy the very most. I find, personally, and you see it a lot in porn where the face is far away and your just brushing it with your tongue, doesn't cut the mustard, as they say. Bury your face against that pussy and devour him!

But as we all know there is so much more to sex between two sisters, or kaikai, as it's called in some circles. Let's move on to fingers---- oh the joys of a good finger bang. This one takes more skill, I feel, than just a good rim job as your using additional skills not used in just a plain rim job. You've got to read the body language & facial expressions as well as the verbal cues from the bottom you are fingering. Read those cues wrong, and the whole thing turns sour quickly. Read them way wrong and you could cause discomfort and out right pain. This is supposed to feel good, with a bit of stretch but not overkill. Start of with just one finger slowly, and if it seems he can do more than add another and another till he seems happiest or says otherwise. However, with that said I find one can warm him up real good especially if you know how to use it. I can't really describe that process, it's more of a knowing, and I think that comes from someone doing it to you first. Skill is everything, and if all else fails try it on yourself first for a test run.

Then add the second finger, same process than add the third. This point, he could be moaning his head off, and if he is great as your succeeding in doing it right. You will also feel him relaxing around your finger or fingers, the process of probing his pussy should be getting easier. Of course plenty of a good quality lube is recommended here and use it generously. A truly great finger bang can lead to so many fun things. Including heavy toy use!

I have a big Daddy side when I'm with a pussyboy who understands the thinking, and is comfortable being piggie. The minute he spreads his legs to give me his pussy, I just want to use him the way I crave to be used. I want to stretch him to his limits and beyond. I want to leave him happily sore. I want and need to say and do all the right things to him, I love a verbal guy, and a guy who only uses fem terms for his sexual organs, and of course guys who are submissive and could be described as having a faggot mindset. 

To be honest with you it is the type of guy I want as a husband. To share tops together, separately and then use each others pussies in the ways we could for each other. fingers, rimming, dildo's, fisting. A guy comfortable being nude at at home. A guy with no qualms about my kissing him in public or sliding my hand in the back of his pants and sticking my finger in his pussy and we walk that way. A guy who I can and he will submit our pussies to each other. A guy who sleeps naked, or at least no undies. A big verbal whore. I guy who I can go to the baths with and share tops, or him come home to me loaded and me felch him out, then snowball or even dildo or fist them in deeper. Just the kind of guy I am, when with a fellow pig.

So what are your thoughts? Your experiences? Your stories. Tell Daddy Charlie, in the comments! I'm sure our readers would love to hear them... "Now, go be a good boi and go play in your pussy for Daddy."

The terminology of gay bottoms confuses me. What exactly am I as a bottom? (Edited)

     

I was asked this question today, again on Twitter, this time about the language, or terms, or even the dichotomy of terms we use to describe men who bottom sexually: meaning they get fucked-- point blank. I believe there are difference in terms, slight as they may be-- or as vast they maybe depending one's personally journey into that term, thinking and understanding. What is so uniquely wonderful, in my opinion is is each of our journeys is so vastly different. That there is no right way, or wrong way; just OUR way and that is perfectly fine as no one knows you better than you, just saying, henny!

Will start super simple, and work our way up. I also know, that I might not be able to cover every term out there, but I'll do they ones I think that are common.

Bottom- a man who gets fucked in the ass by other men. Period. Can be gay, can be bisexual, can be on the down low, can be straight, can be curious-- as long as he is a man getting fucked, he's a bottom. At least occasionally especially if he is versatile, which is a whole other post into itself.

Picky Bottom- just that. Very picky about who, why, when, where, how they get fucked. Standards at times can be way too high and if this happens NO tops meet the requirements they have. Most have very strict rules about getting fucked and they ARE to be followed... or else no boi pussy for you.

Whore, Slut, Tramp- any bottom who is easy to fuck. Maybe too easy too, or at least regarded that way. The words here are interchangeable for me. It can also mean that he sleeps around a lot, with a lot of men. May have little to no standards of who, when, where, how or even why... just bend over and take it.

The issue here is societal shaming even within our own gay community about being any one of these things, let alone a bottom. There is a whole post on bottom shaming on this blog--- if you'd like to read more on the topic. But, when it comes to shaming. Oh HELL NO! Not today Satan! Not today! Who are you to tell me what is or is not too much sex? Seriously, the sex police. I think not. Our sexual needs are our own. If I choose to sleep 1,095 men a year, or three a day that's my own damn business and not yours! If you're judging me, you're probably some frigid bitch not getting DICK!

Power bottom-  is a term that gets thrown around a lot by people in our community, yet few truly understand what this phrase really means. Well, I’m here to give you the definition so that you have the lingo right. If you are a true power bottom, you are gay man who has a huge appetite for being penetrated by another guy (or guys). You can last for extended periods of time without having to take breaks.

Power bottoms tend to last longer in the sack when the top is confident during intense jack-hammering (read between the lines). Power bottoms are ready to take it day or night and commonly like to skip a lot of foreplay and get right down to the business of being fucked.

Let’s first dispense with some of the common myths that are often associated with being a power bottom. While I can’t list them all, here are some of the biggies.

Power bottoms are:

Effeminate: A lot of people seem to think that guys who power bottom are “queens” or “big girls”. That’s totally false. I would argue that guys who mostly or exclusively bottom are perhaps some of the most masculine guys on the planet. This myth can be traced to harmful stereotypes about gay men – pure and simple. However, if you are like me I am effeminate and I have no shame in being so. You'll hear me say during sex, "fuck my pussy". If your effeminate embrace it and celebrate it there is nothing wrong in being a " big girl".

Selfish: I’ve had friends say that power bottoms are big time selfish whores. This one is BS too. That’s because being a power bottom isn’t so much about the activity but instead, about the mindset. Just because we like to bend over doesn’t mean we can’t or won’t top. It does mean that we prefer to ride a guy and doing so for long periods of time. This one is also can be a positive attribute in my opinion, as I am selfish: meaning I want all the tops for myself, and there's nothing there either.

Pain: Perhaps the worst stereotype associated with this bit of lingo relates to physical pain. For some stupid reason, a lot of gay tops have it in their mind that power bottoms don’t feel pain. I’m here to tell you that’s total B.S. because we do. It DOES hurt if you just jam it in or suddenly yank it out. Nothing pisses me off more than a top thinking he can do whatever he wants to me because the guy thinks I’m impervious to pain, you know? And I hate to break it to you, but not all of us are hooked on crystal meth, causing us to get “tina dick”. I don’t know if that myth came from videos or an urban legend but it’s crap.

Submissive: Continuing on with the stereotypes, power bottoms can be submissive but that doesn’t mean they are totally submissive. Sure, I suppose if you hypnotize one of us, we could turn into some freakish zombie bottom but in the real world, that’s not been my experience. Some of us are very "take charge" kind of guys as we know how we like to get fucked, and we'll do anything to get it that way, even if we do have to take charge.

Slutty: Finally, not all guys who are power bottoms are slutty. I hate when gay men think this but apparently, many do. Remember, it’s not about the number of guys we can take but instead, our ability to be ready and last for the long term. If you are a slut like me, embrace it, celebrate it and let no one shame you in being one. Be the biggest slut you can be,

To be this type of bottom, it means you have personal POWER. Here, I am talking about a high degree of self-esteem and self-worth. Not the other way around.

Power Bottom Truths

As mentioned earlier, a gay man who identifies as a power bottom has adopted a mindset. This way of thinking takes years to develop and has nothing to do with the top’s size or girth.

Instead, it’s about the tops ability to jump into action at a moment’s notice, allowing someone like me to be equally ready.

This means we’ve educated ourselves about digestive health, allowing us to do our thing without worry.

What really pisses me off is running into guys on hookup apps like Grindr and Scruff who claim they are power bottoms when they simply aren’t.

Just because you rode a guy for 20 minutes doesn’t entitle you to claim the label. And so what if you can sit on a giant toy! That doesn’t mean you are one either!

So gay men everywhere, please, for the love of all that is good, please stop calling yourself a power bottom when you aren’t.

This is a very special title and should be reserved for gay men who have put in years of effort while educating themselves on how to be masters of their craft. 

Similar in some regards to a bottom, but a specific variety of bottom... like the rest of bottom terms. A power bottom tends to be the one in charge, and feels most powerful when the are getting fucked. He enjoys maintaining control over penetration. The bottom is on the throne, so to speak, "taking the Top". Leaves no question about who fucked whom. The result with many disappointing "stellar tops" who may not know how to rim or like to rim, or won't rim, couldn't find your prostrate with eleven fingers, and high resolution maps of my pussy; and either cum or pass out from exhaustion after three to five minutes of fucking. Power bottoms are in my opinion: supposedly have skilled tongues, creative, honest supremely confident and themselves as a bottom, and hands on individual leadership abilities. 

Cum Dump- Related terms are cum dumpster, cum whore, cum guzzler, cum bucket. Can be a very affectionate term of endearment by the right guy. Within the gay community often used to describe a very constantly horny, bottom gay guy who is used by men for his body and nothing else. He is just the vessel in which men deposit their semen when they are getting fucked they LIVE for the cream pie ie: being bred, getting pregnant, white washing the walls all terms for taking his cum in your pussy. 

This term can be used frequently within the bareback (unsafe rectal sex) community as it requires condom-less sex. The term went out of fashion for a period of time during the height of the AIDS epidemic, but with the advancement of PREP, medications to prevent HIV/AIDS, the term has come back bigger than ever. Cum dumps can be found easily at orgies, bath houses or gay sex clubs, hook up apps and infrequently at gay bars. I WILL not advocate for or against doing this in real life, that is your decision. Your an adult. And I'm not your Daddy, your lover, or your husband.

Faggot- from what little of the term, as I understand it... and I could be wrong... is someone who has absolutely no limits when it comes to sex. Degrading.... yes. Humiliating... yes. Lick a "scuzzy" looking toilet bowl yes. Pissed on... yes. You get the idea. The more you do to this guy the more he loves it, thrives in it and enjoys it. A combination of all the other terms thrown in for this guy, plus terms I may have forgotten. Years ago during the Queer Nation Movement the term also gave us power in ways we never had it before. Hence the name of this blog. I'm gay. I have sex with men... actually a lot of it. With any man wanting to fuck me. I'm the one getting it up the ass; but by god I enjoy it and want it. No apologies. In your face... fuck your attitude.

Pussyboy- Finally, my favorite term of all time! You know this if you follow me on Twitter at all. I Tweet about being pussy all the time. 

Go read my other posts about being a pussyboy before reading this one, as I think it will make more sense that way, because I've grown into my acceptance so much since those posts.

I've written about it extensively on here what I want to do with this post is state what I learned. I met a guy very close to where I live.. not saying where, or who, or how we met--- but I arrived at his door and he was stark naked, gorgeous. HUGE cock!

I got naked and for the next three HOURS it was nonstop ass play. He fucked me stupid with his eight inch, raw cock. He used big toys on me. But the most action my pussy got was his HANDS! They were magic. I felt things I've never felt before. My headspace was, "He's using me like the pussy I want to be. He fully gets me without my saying a single word." He nearly worked his fist in me... about two inches more and the widest part of his hand WOULD have been in my cunt. 

You read that right, cunt. He cunted me! He changed how I view myself forever. He cemented in my head that.... me the person... is absolutely nothing, if I can't be pussy for MEN than I am nothing! That I'm nothing but pussy, and the rest of me... is the life support that makes it possible for me to be pussy. He could have used me ALL damn day, and I still would have wanted more. And, that in all honesty is what I felt that day when it ended. That I wanted more. That I will do EVERY THING in my power to play with him again. I have too in my thinking, because I think each time I do my thinking will evolve and, my head space about being pussy will go deeper. Who knows what I'll think when I finally take his fist, but I'm sure it will be intense!

The nicest part of this whole experience as much as he was the BEST TOP I've ever had, he also cemented in my head I love being the "Daddy" playing in his boy's pussy as well; for as much as he gave... he also took. Now, I'm not saying he's pussy, because he never said anything remotely connected to being a pussyboy. I worked his ass just as good as he did mine.  But the idea of being a Daddy who loves playing in pussy as much or even more so having mine played with.... and I love it a lot... I enjoy playing in another's  pussy just as much. It doesn't make any less pussy myself.

The absolute HOTTEST thing we did, was both of us using a double headed dildo at the same time, both of us on our backs. It was so INSANELY hot! First time ever for me doing it, and I would do again with out a doubt!

I didn't say "pussy" as much as I wanted too in my dialogue with him as I wasn't completely sure if he was into my saying it or not... but my mind was screaming it at the top of my lungs a million times over... that's how I knew I had been fully, unapologetically cunted and my pussy and my mind knew it!

With all of this said about terms, and ideas I think we can should be a mix of our unique design. We can be all of these things... in more ways than one especially when we need to be that "term". It's just a label, and WE are just males who happen to get fucked my men.

How do you accept that you're a sub because, I'm struggling with that...

How do you accept that you're a sub because, I'm struggling with that?

    So this morning I was asked this question on Twitter from one of my followers, and of course I felt it required an in depth response. I want to start here by sharing my all time favorite quote. It's by Toni Morrison, and while it is aimed at former slaves within the context of the story; the message and words of this quote so ring true, I believe for those of us in the LGBTQIA+ Community and yes, even within the submissive community even more so because we, I feel at large, are sadly misunderstood:

        “In this here place, we flesh; flesh that weeps, laughs; flesh that dances on bare feet in grass. Love it.             Love it hard. Yonder they do not love your flesh. They despise it. They don't love your eyes; they'd just          as soon pick em out. No more do they love the skin on your back. Yonder they flay it. And O my people         they do not love your hands. Those they only use, tie, bind, chop off and leave empty. Love your                    hands! Love them. Raise them up and kiss them. Touch others with them, pat them together, stroke                 them on your face 'cause they don't love that either. You got to love it, you! And no, they ain't in love             with your mouth. Yonder, out there, they will see it broken and break it again. What you say out of             it they will not heed. What you scream from it they do not hear. What you put into it to nourish your             body they will snatch away and give you leavins instead. No, they don't love your mouth. You got to             love it. This is flesh I'm talking about here. Flesh that needs to be loved. Feet that need to rest and to             dance; backs that need support; shoulders that need arms, strong arms I'm telling you. And O my                 people, out yonder, hear me, they do not love your neck unnoosed and straight. So love your neck; put         a hand on it, grace it, stroke it and hold it up. and all your inside parts that they'd just as soon slop for         hogs, you got to love them. The dark, dark liver--love it, love it and the beat and beating heart, love             that too. More than eyes or feet. More than lungs that have yet to draw free air. More than your life-            holding womb and your life-giving private parts, hear me now, love your heart. For this is the prize."

    Powerful stuff right? So let's unpack why I think this so fits within a gay submissive context. As I said before the quote, we are sadly misunderstood and many times misrepresented to exactly who and why as well as why we do what we do; and that is a large area of interpretation and self expression with each's persons submissive journey being their own. However, there are similarities. We just to need to acknowledge them and talk about them amongst our submissive peers. 

    For out yonder, many hate us for not only being gay, but as being seen WEAK and, dear god help us, as being feminine; something of which a man, in many opinions, must never be accused of doing for that is in many opinions is and can be social suicide as well as to the "delicate" masculinity so many try to cling too. This idea of masculinity at all costs in my opinion is outdated, and is not the norm by far for many of us. Men do cry, we have emotions and fear, and doubts and we have every right to express them and doing so doesn't do anything except make us human, like everybody else. But lord help those of us who do show emotions for again we are reviled and we are beyond despised. It can be daunting to be seen this way but as my Gram used to say, "honey, that's THEIR problem not YOURS."

    So the first step is acceptance, in my opinion it is to love your self, and love yourself hard. As Morrison also says in Beloved, “Love is or it ain't. Thin love ain't love at all.” So not just loving yourself hard but also thickly. By this I mean fully, all of our faults, shortcomings and what not; love every single aspect of who and what we are, and that includes being submissive. This of course is not an easy process to love oneself, and many people struggle with it in some form their entire lives. But we have to do it, for there is another saying Rupaul is known for, "If you can't love yourself, how the hell you going to love anybody else?" Learning to love yourself can be a life long journey for many, but I believe it is a growing journey and changes in time as we discover ourself more as we grow older. I wish I knew at 20 what I know now at 54.

    This excerpt: Love your hands! Love them. Raise them up and kiss them. Touch others with them, pat them together, stroke them on your face 'cause they don't love that either. You got to love it, you! 

    

For me speaks very strongly of this idea that what we as submissive's do is service. From hands to our entire body and yes, even our spirit. It is an all consuming service, that not only brings us sexual pleasure but also our "spiritual", for lack of better words, fulfillment. From domestic service, to obedience, to submission, to being of sexual use to our Dominants/Daddies; but so many just get hung up on the sexual when in reality it is so much more. One word comes to mind in this area and it is boi-wife. For some means this idea of the 1950's submissive housewife we all know so well, and if we don't henny that's what Google and YouTube are for. But, within this idea of service even here we have to deeply love of what we are doing, and why, as well as love the man, or men in which we serve, and yes this even applies to the one night stand for even then we are of service. Service also means we provide and in this sense we have to take action, put ourselves out on the "dating market/cruising arena" so we can find the man, or men to which we will serve. For I think that without service, and yes this applies to even sexual, we aren't much of anything and we feel that in our very fiber when we are not. Many of us long for full time round the clock service/submission and again this is a very vast field to which I could talk about all day; but we must find the arena in which we feel we are best suited too, and there are many.

     And no, they ain't in love with your mouth. Yonder, out there, they will see it broken and break it again. What you say out of it they will not heed. What you scream from it they do not hear. What you put into it to nourish your body they will snatch away and give you leavins instead. 

    We have to be able to put to words for ourselves first, then for others our desires, our needs, our wants, our fantasies, and that can be a very scary thing; and yes this does require trust in the person you are telling it too. But without putting to words and speaking it, how will we know, let alone others knowing as well. Fear shouldn't stop us in what we want but why, how, when and yes even by whom--- even when that could includes hundreds of men. Fear can be all consuming, but overcoming it provides great strength. This is a huge hurdle to overcome in my opinion because so many of us fear to put to words what it is we desire and not just for others, but for our very own selves. But how can we verbally speak words to others if we can't speak them for ourselves?

    We could take this step further, which I will, and say that when it comes to the mouth many who are subs also see their mouths as a hole/pussy for men to use and we must be able to not only provide that service to men but we must do it to the best of our abilities. Some even adapt their language to emphasize how they view their mouths: mouthpussy and or mouthcunt. For beginners who have never once given a blow job I'd practice with a dildo to gain the skills needed for a great blow job. This also applies to any other field of gay sex involving the mouth, and there are a few but because of length I'll leave for a later date.

    What one MUST take in mind also is just because we are submissive/passive doesn't mean we are a door mat! We have the right to say NO. We have the right to say what you are doing, or saying, or how you are treating me isn't right, and I'm not going to stand by and let you do this to me. We set the rules and guidelines of how we are treated by everybody we encounter, and this is far beyond the sexual realm; and quite frankly people get away with what we LET THEM. Period! That line is crossed and we speak up-- even if we have to scream it as Morrison implies, act, and if need be end the relationship with that person whoever they are. We are the the ones who are in real control and don't forget it.

    The last phrase in Morrison's quote is about loving one's heart... and by this I'm going to say everything from your emotions, to feelings, to relationships, to sexual encounters to every aspect of your life. Act and or behave in a way, that we are of to service in some way to everyone we meet, for in some way we are--- that is a mind blowing idea isn't it. But while serving and being submissive and passive we must love what we are doing and just not with our hearts but with ever fiber of our being, for without that we are just acting in motion, if you will, sort of in a limbo of actions with no meaning, or purpose, and no motivation. A lot of what we do as subs is an action we do or create, but I'm going to be a bit controversial and say that is way more head and heart space. An emotional, rational and spiritual space that everything comes out of and I'm hoping that makes sense. 

For many of us it is of being service, providing that service and while many focus on the joys of nonsexual service and believe me there are many; this last year for me I discovered my biggest joy came by providing sexual service more and I'm sure some would classify that as being more faggot behavior than sub-ish behavior. Faggot behavior, and this is just MY opinion is a step beyond sub behavior. A lot of the behaviors and thinking are the same, but for me, it is that we see the role primarily as a sexual one with few limits or boundaries.

Since we are talking sexual here, and my own thinking, I'm going to say that it is even a bit more "beyond", for lack of a better word, being a faggot as I see myself and my person as just mere pussy; and for me that is solely the one in my ass. Yes I love sucking cock, and yes I do a lot of it, and yes I see it as a form of pussy, but, again for me, spreading my ass cheeks and presenting my pussy to a man and then him fucking me and then breeding me--- is everything to me. It fulfills me in a way nothing else ever can or will. My thinking is consumed with how can I do this all the time. Where and how will I get the next dick to fuck me. Who for me doesn't really matter, just that they want to fuck me is enough, and for some that is indeed radical thinking. But it goes back to a post here in this blog where a follower of mine on Twitter that said his body and being where just the life support system for him being merely pussy. If you were to ask if me I were a sub the reply would be, "I do, but is more of my being pussy."

I hope this helps you....

Chastity cages, ejaculations, and orgasms---- oh my

 I just have a question , not sure who to ask. Perhaps you have an answer for me. So, I’ve been in chastity for about a month and a few weeks. I came the other day my rubbing and tugging my cage. Cum dribble out of it. Is that cheating ? I mean is that actual orgasm or just ejaculation ? Thanks

I got this question on Twitter about four days ago, and this is the first chance I've had to answer it.

I'm going to assume first off that you don't have a Daddy/Dom/Sir to turn to with this kind of question, and that based on the way you formed the question that this "just happened" where with a Daddy/Dom/Sir this may not have happened at all. Who really knows? I know it probably isn't the best to just assume things from a question, from a guy I don't well. It does happen all the time though. I think people presume all kinds of nonsense about us even if they just see us in passing. So many of us I think have just become accustomed to it, that for many of us we never give it a second thought.

First thing, I've got to commend you on being in chastity for a month, and by the sounds of it all by yourself. Meaning you took the leap to do it, realizing that this was something you needed for yourself, to complete yourself. I've debated it since March, but haven't worked up the courage to do it as of yet. Hopefully next year. But your doing it needs to be commended and I think so many of us a "fellow brothers", if you will, this is the least we could do for each other.

I've heard from so many guys on Twitter say that once cock-caged they feel free to be themselves, this almost "non-male", if you will, and that so many once having done it realize that for them their source of pleasure is their "pussy". Please see other posts about the thinking behind all of that, why recreate the wheel, when you can read about it. That their "cocks" are not even really part of the equation, and the more I think about that, the hotter it gets.

I've just recently have read about guys using vibrators on or below their cock-cages to "cum" without getting fully hard. I've not read if they feel it is "cheating" however. With that said, if your a bottom guy who is cock-caged and thinks otherwise I for one would love to hear your thoughts. I've also read quite a bit about "weak orgasms, dribbling, hands free orgasms" from dildo use, or even just taint stimulation. I've done completely hands free once and it was mind blowing to say the least. Dribbling I seem to a lot of, is it equal to an ejaculation--- no it's not, it's not even close to that, but when I think dribbling I think more of a dribble ejaculation that is caused by not using your hands.

I think tugging and or rubbing your cage is ok. Not cumming at all, ever, is not healthy for a long period of time and could produce health problems later on. What could be viewed as wrong is your taking off your cage and having a good old fashioned wank. Other chastity boys might agree with me. I think their are many ways to cum/orgasm with or even without ejaculation.

One of which is prostate orgasms, I call them pussy-gasms, others call them fag-gasms; it's all the same thing and these I do have a lot. My record is five in two hours of dildo use. My legs were weak afterward. The feeling is way more intense than just an ejaculation caused by a wank. These are full body waves of pleasure crashing over you. For me the start very deep with in me, after all mine have all come from dildo use. A warm sensation, then tingling, the pulsing and building and building until woosh, here it comes. Feels like a flood almost, and every time I have one I end up shaking-- in a good way. Many ways if or when I have one I don't feel the need to ejaculate at all. 95% of the time when I've had one my dick has been limp as a dishcloth, completely ignored. But that is me, and it may or may not be the same for everyone, so keep that in mind.

Personally, I wouldn't make a big habit out of rubbing or tugging your cage especially if you feel "guilty" later, this is about pleasure not guilt. However, with that said, if you continue to do so, do so guilt free. I think there are other venues to pursue to reach an orgasmic state.

the dichotomy of boipussy vs. boycunt

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