I was asked this recently on Twitter and I think this is an important conversation with the current advancement of social media apps as a whole. So, I'll start the conversation there:
Social media apps: I'm talking Grindr, Scruff, BarebackRT, Adam4Adam, Silver Daddies or any other "hook-up" app for gay sex. Millions of guys post nudes on these apps every day. Some guys even on multiple apps. All kinds of nude photos imaginable. The vast majority I've noticed are alway headless; a face pic that is always locked or they send one to you after some conversation. Which in my thinking brings up my first point: TRUST.
There's an element of trust in unlocking a photo that shows your face to a person you've never met, on an app that quiet frankly, is basically used to have sex. Do I trust them enough to show them my face? Do I believe them enough in what they said to me about themselves to show a picture of my face AFTER they more than likely seen my naked body, and it's various parts. That decision is a difficult one, and answered differently by everyone faced with that decision. Of course there is the added pressure of being "attractive" enough to land the date or fuck or whatever. But that's a bit different; although I believe that pressure is in the mix of the decision of trust. And heaven help you if it's someone you actually know, that could be embarrassing especially if they've seen your pussy.
I also think I can't sway you either way in making that decision because each person who responds to your pictures has their own unique situation and those issues of trust change with each responding person. I weigh that decision carefully, and I pay close attention to what they say, and how they respond to questions that I ask. A gut feeling if you will. But a lot of time you just hope that you made the right decision and I guess the answer to that question is IF you actually meet for the hook-up; because it did pay off.
This idea of releasing your face picture on a hook up tends for some seem to be a mute point because they've seen the nude shots and again if the conversation goes right, in no time your visiting him or he's visiting you and you're fucking. The face picture could be the last thing you think about and the issue more important is do I trust this stranger in their home or mine to fuck me.
Just For Fans, Only Fans, or private short vids:
I don't have a personal JFF or OF. I've followed three total so far. My thing with that whole scenario is it's gay porn, period! Whether you do gay porn with studios: Falcon, Treasure Island Media, Charged Up Media or whoever, and run a private site it's still gay porn; or if you're an amateur doing it from your bedroom like so many, it's still gay porn. I'm not sure if these guys let friends/family/coworkers or whoever know that they do gay porn or if this conversation even takes place. That's an individual choice, and I get that... BUT if these insiders of your life don't know you do gay porn, you run the risk of exposure--- which could ruin everything. The guys who are public, and unapologetic that they do gay porn... god bless them and what they do. The risk seems lower. Some amateurs of these sites once exposed lose jobs, lose income, lose family and friends. The risks are high for the content they make. One example of this happening is:
Declan Blake aka @glitterybttm tweeted this response to his ordeal and the outcome:
One year ago today, on my birthday someone got a hold of this very private video of me, and without my permission sent it to my close friends and family, posted it on pornhub with my real name, posted it on their onlyfans, and posted it on Twitter.
Since then, it has circulated Twitter on countless different accounts claiming to be me or just cuz its really fucking hot, its been reposted to pornhub, and sent to me by numerous friends and strangers asking if I am aware of the “naughty” video of me on the internet.
I still don’t quite understand why I was being harassed, but it lead to issues in my relationships, friendships, and my own mental health. And let’s not forget all the kind words from strangers at general and other LPSG threads.
Since this frustrating incident, I’ve owned and embraced my sexuality and my kink/fetish journey as a part of my identity. And thank god, because no one should ever feel anything less than empowered by their sexuality.
I only mention Declan in this post because he, himself has been very open about his experience being exposed. He is one of the rare ones to speak about the topic and so candidly.
I don't know the whole story of what happened to Declan Blake, but what little I do know is that his exposure by others was not right, and never will be. His affairs are simply that, his affairs. What seems to have happened from my perspective from his tweets is that his life to some degree has changed for the worse for a period of time... before turning around, as he now has some degree of freedom within himself and within his life and even he has admitted that. But, that is something he may or may not be willing to talk about. I hate the idea that someone tried ruining him and for what?
Our next topic is catfishing:
Catfishing is a deceptive activity where a person creates a fictional persona or fake identity on a social networking service, usually targeting a specific victim. The practice may be used for financial gain, to compromise a victim in some way, as a way to intentionally upset a victim, or for wish fulfillment. In this definition/scenario my best example is what Cherry Pie did to get herself kicked off RuPaul's Drag Race.
Catfishing can also be done in a way that creates an identity, not their own, out of fear of rejection, self loathing or a myriad of other reasons. As simple as a fake ID on Grinder can lead to you meeting up for that coffee and the guy you met is very FAR from what was presented. It can be just a made up handle or personality in a chatroom or even Twitter; where you posing as something you are not.
