What is a pussyboy? Just curious here. REVISED

 Question from Twitter in my DM: What is a pussyboy? Just curious here.

I get this question a lot, so I thought I'd answer it here in my new format, where I can go in depth on the topic.

According to Wiktionary.org pussyboy: "is defined as a bottom gay man, usually a younger, submissive and hairless male."

However, in my opinion there is so much more than that too brief nondescript definition. A pussyboy main focus is his “pussy” or medical lingo his rectum (this will be the last time I will use that lingo).  He views his "pussy" as his main sexual organ as his true pleasure comes from being the passive partner in male on male sexual acts. He may have prostrate orgasms (my term for the is pussy-gasms), which for him are more than enough, and it is not about ejaculation, but being submissive and passive to the top he is serving.

For me, a pussyboy is a term that describes a boy/man, of any age who has let go of his personal desires in order to satisfy others, and please those who wish to be dominant towards the pussyboy. This is especially true for me, as when it comes to dominate men I never have any desire to be satisfied, as my pleasure source is knowing that I am making the man happy, and making him ejaculate, and inside of me. I think the number one rule a pussyboy should have is: Always focus on the man you are serving and his pleasure. Know that your satisfaction does not matter.

To me there is nothing more pleasing than knowing that I have successfully brought happiness to a man through sexual intimacy. By my going pussy up (the term pussy can also be used for your entire ass, not just your entrance--however some use the term. cunt, gash or twat for your "entrance") This is where I believe the line between Sub and Dom lies. The Dom gains pleasure through what the Sub does, and the Sub gains pleasure through how the Dom responds through the Subs actions. Now of course not everyone is the same.

In my thinking the perfect fuck is unequal​. One fucks, one gets fucked end of story. One offers him self up to be used, and the other gratefully uses him. Both are happy this way.  This makes sense especially to me. Imagine the hierarchy, there are fewer people at the top, no pun intended, and many more at the bottom, no pun intended. When you've accepted your role, you free yourself to be the best bottom you can, and to live true to yourself. By the way, self-acceptance is sexy as hell. 

For me, being on my knees before a man feels natural. The desire to submit is innate. It has always been there, and finally acting on it was liberating. There is nothing wrong with accepting inferiority. We are not equal and that's fine. In service there is fulfillment. 

For some bottom men being a pussyboy is not enough, but also embrace feminine things like hose/silk stockings and garters, lacey panties, high-heel shoes, or other things that are deemed fem. Each relationship is different and there are no right or wrong answers, just venues to be pursued. However, for me the cross-dressing stops there, as anything else beyond that is something entirely different: true cross dressing, or female illusionists, and even transgender. Most pussyboys are very comfortable being male, and being submissive. Others thrive being "girlie", myself included.

Some bottom men even adapt further language to embrace this idea; for example being “Daddy’s good girl”, but not everybody does this. Some even take the term of fucking and re-term the word into “cunting" or "being cunted” the act of becoming, or being an open and willing "cunt" at all times, to be fucked and even bred. Cunting though for most is the thinking that the physical act of the fuck is a life changing event, a “spiritual awakening”, if you will, to the fact they are a pussyboy and many never look back to anything prior to that "cunting".

If breeding (bareback sex) is part of your scene please have an open and honest conversation about your sexual histories before doing so, and please consider PREP if you feel you are at risk for contracting HIV/AIDS, or use condoms if you are uncomfortable with the aforementioned. Again this is not something every one does but a further fetish of the above ideas.

Of course the flip side of the fem pussyboy is the butch pussyboy. The big, buff, gym going stereotype gay boy we are all aware of. The one you look at and say, "Oh, he's a top." When in all reality you're dead wrong. He can be the leather bottom boy, the submissive. The one who appears more masculine in appearance and attitude than his counterparts but still identifies his pleasure the same way, through his “pussy”. The only clear examples of this in gay media outlets are in porn especially in fisting porn where language may support the terms pussy or cunt. However, the passive is seen as a boy, not quiet yet a “man” and some of the ideas mentioned may or may not apply, and there may or may not be slight adjustments to those ideas.

 Language and the use of language, is crucial for many in this scene, especially words that can be seen as a negative: faggot, bitch, cunt, snatch, twat, whore, slut, cumdump, sissy, girlie-boy or a combination of terms like: bitchboy. For many of us--- and especially if you know us well--- can become positive language and terms, and yes even a sexual turn on during sexual intercourse. For some within our community this is also controversial. Again not everybody does this so talk openly with your sexual partner about what is comfortable.

The whole thing boils down to that being a pussyboy is way more than a look, or more than a sexual act it is a way of thinking of being, and for many of us a way of life. It is our life, and some of us even, dare I say take this on as our gender identity in saying we are not male nor female nor even a predeterined gender--- we are simply our pussy. End of story.

I hope this helped...