Question: How loose do you think my pussy should be?

A recent Twitter follower asked this question privately in a DM, and while I did answer him very briefly I felt this question deserves a much longer and more diverse answer than I gave.

How loose do you think my pussy should be? I’m never sure, because I like that it’s quite small and pink when not in use. My husband says it’s pretty. But I’m often jealous of gurls with big puffy pussy lips.

I think this is a great question, with quite a few responses:

First of all I think looseness is an individual choice if one is single. It's a couples choice if one is in a relationship to a man, with usually the dominate in the relationship making that decision. The latter could be up for debate as many "gurls" would say that their Dom/Daddy/Husband should make that decision for them I tend to agree with that point of view. BUT it is our decision as HIS gurl to submit to that decision; and even that is up for debate with some couples as some Dom's/Daddy's/Husbands would punish a gurl for disobeying a direct order. But I do think conversation is necessary as one really can't be a dominate or a submissive without the other.

Next for me, this questions brings up the topic of pussy training (dildo training). As I've tweeted many times I truly believe pussy training it imperative to being HIS good gurl. A Dom/Daddy/Husband for the most part just wants a gurl he can mount easily and rut away till he dumps his load and paints your pussy walls with his baby batter. I can't be more brutally honest than that, and lets be honest they only way you achieve that is pussy training. Let's also be honest here for a second, it is really the only way we as good gurls should masturbate, and IS the only way we masturbate if we are caged in chastity. I'll speak honestly here it was during COVID-19, and self-imposed lockdown that I somehow through the pussy training I was doing at the time... that developed the skill of becoming internally wet on my own with just use; ie. meaning my pussy with use gets sopping wet on her own with use, to the point there are beads of liquid on the dildos I use and I've even been known to get frothy. Now I'm no medical anything, but I'm sure it involves my princess spot (prostate) being stimulated so much. I find it hot as fuck! And so do the tops that now use me as a "single gurl".

Next is your comment, "I like that it’s quite small and pink when not in use." There's this horrible urban myth that with too much use a pussy will never close. This is not true, and could only be true if "that use is EXTREME", like say elbow deep fisting every day for lord knows how long, but you'd have to ask a medical professional about that and again I am not one. I think of my/our pussies as being elastic. That they do snap back to being small pink and tight looking even after say two hours of fisting play. Some of course do look used, and I've tweeted about that as well. I find that if our pussies looked like they can take a rut/hard fuck we get rutted/hard fucked more often. Of course there are Dom's/Daddy's/Husband's that get off on the whole whiny---"your dick is way to big for my pussy, please take it out" phenomenon BUT I think more Dom's/Daddies/Husband's want a gurl who demands them to, "give me all that big dick, Daddy. Stretch my cunt out Daddy".

Next is your "I’m often jealous of gurls with big puffy pussy lips" comment. I love this part because you singly voiced what many of us as gurls THINK: "I want my pussy to look like that!" Whether it's a big gaping pussy/cunt... and yes there is a whole conversation and dichotomy about the differences between a pussy and a cunt but that's a different post... to a truly pronounced rosebud that you see after big dildo/fisting use, to these gurls who can take HUGE dildo's or even forearms. I get jealous as all hell, especially with porn stars like Nate Grimes and Devin Franco who take HUGE things up their asses and in all honesty I tend to think of seeing those videos/images as "pussy goals". We're all working to a point where we are truly happy with our pussy achievements and what it can do.

Next to last comment. Readers of my tweets may have noticed a switch over the last two years in how I tweet about being pussy. I started only using the term "pussyboi" as it was, for me, so new to me and I loved how it described me at the time. But my research into Third-Gender ideas I came to realize I wasn't even comfortable calling myself a "boy". For me, I see myself in the role I play both in and out of the bedroom as "the gurl". I'm the submissive 1950's Housewife stereotype in all three of the relationship's I've had. I can count on two hands the number of times I've topped in my 38 years of having gay sex. My first partner/lover/Daddy (Michael) even nicknamed me kitten... I was just 18. I've also since the very first time I went ass up for my first partner/lover/Daddy I'm the type NEVER to touch my junk during sex. He either bobbed or flopped about every time I've had sex. No one ever told me that's what I had to do, but I somehow knew it was what I was SUPPOSED to do. Daddy Michael even said when very close to cumming, "let's breed kitty" and mind you this was 1985!

It was in my research and my figuring out that I am non-binary that I dropped the word boi from "pussyboi" to just "pussy". That term "pussy" just worked and still does. However a very dear friend who lives in Michigan and someone I've NEVER had sex with, although I would love to have sex with, in naughty DM messages called me his "baby girl". Something big time clicked. I do have a fuck buddy I see from time to time who calls me his pussy gurl and for me that works even more. I tend to lean very feminine in nature naturally, my voice is high. I get all the time, "that be $5.95, ma'am please pull up to the first window", and of course the role I play in bed by being ass up, pussy stuffed. I tend to see myself as more gurl anyway. Not that I'm doing surgery or hormone's or anything like that... it's I'm just NOT comfortable seeing myself as "male-identifying" anymore. And there are others just like me... which I find wonderful and supportive to my thinking. I've even taken to calling fucking, cunting instead as it furthers emasculates me and the type of sex I have. For me, it's all about getting my pussy used. Of course not every bottom is a pussyboi, or even thinks of having a pussy, or is even a gurl---although I at times wonder how much of all of that is repressed because being seen as "a feminine gay man or a man who has sex with men" is SO looked down upon.

Last: My husband says it’s pretty. OH my gawd, how sweet. You're a very lucky gurl to have a husband so sweet. It is opinion I think that matters most as he is the one who sees your pussy most, unless your staring at it in a mirror all day <lol>. I think, if it were me, I'd start a very honest conversation with your husband about not only how does he want your pussy to look, but also about how loose he wants you. He may have hidden fisting fantasies for all we know. Ask him to watch, and even set up how often you do your pussy training. Most importantly baby gurl not only give HIM all the pussy he want/needs/desires but give him incredible pussy every time.