AGGRESSION

Today's post is all about aggression. I wanted to do this theme today because it seemed to fit the overall theme all week here. I also wanted to share some famous quotes that I personally enjoy about aggression:

Men must be aggressive for what is right... Robert M. La Follette, Sr.

I want to state categorically that force will be met with force and aggression... Lal Bahadur Shastri

You can play hard. You can play aggressive. You can give 120% but if one guy is out of position then someone is running... Bill Belichick

In the land of "I know," there is always competitiveness, jealousy, pretense, pride and arrogance. It is an aggressive realm - the realm of the ego. I say refuse citizenship. In the land of "I don't know," the inhabitants move without conflict and are naturally quiet, happy and peaceful. The wise stay here... Mooji

We are only just beginning to understand the power of love because we are just beginning to understand the weakness of force and aggression... B.F. Skinner 

Drive is considered aggression today; I knew it then as purpose... Bette Davis

In my opinion, there is a big difference between FORCE and aggression. Force is just that, and in my thinking, it is not necessarily you want to do all the way to and including rape and even beyond; and while "rape scenes" seem predominant in gay erotica from novels to gay porn films, chile, it ain't cute. Speaking as a rape victim from a Hate Crime situation now thirty-four years later, there are still, even today, moments where it floods my dreams and I wake in a cold sweat, sick to my stomach.

Aggression on the other hand, just my opinion, can be and should be consensual--- and yes up to, and once again including rape. But for the post today, I really want to focus on consensual and participatory.

Aggression can be as simple as verbal-- the something spoken, or the way someone looks at you; most of us know that look because our mothers gave it to us. To tied up, tied down, spanking, a slap, spitting--- you name it and it could more than likely fit.

The key is I feel is open, honest dialogue one what each other expects, needs and wants; as well as what they won't put up with or tolerate. We all have our limits. But we also have room to explore, fantasize and even delve into. There is always room for growth.