Interview: Achilles & Patroclus/@APatroclus on Twitter

@APatroclus was a lil concerned with his grammar and spelling when I approached him, but personally that is part of his charm and wit. 

My first question is you talk about the marines in your tweets are you active duty, reserves, or is there something else I'm not aware of as I've never been in the military?

I'm active duty... 10 years in the Marine Corps...enlisted.

It seems from your tweets that being a Marine plays a big part into your sex life, or how you view your sex life. If that's correct, how does that impact it, or make it different? Will that idea still be relevant when you leave the Marines?

yeah yer def right...Marines is a brotherhood of warriors... we're body proud... proud of our cocks & how many chicks we fuck... there's a lot of homo sex kinda 'built in' to being a Marine... like we don't being naked around each other or jacking off...when we deploy we'll jack each other off sometimes or even give each other blow jobs... some of us are really into assfucking... andit's just part of the warrior brotherhood to show yet dominance over another dude by fucking yer in his ass and making him like it, like even pop a fuckin boner and cum from u fucking him... and we like being dominated like that by a bro... that's why its almost  like a joke that Marines like getting fuckd... but its gotta be by a real man not some faggoty type dude.

Based on that last part of your comment about "faggoty type dudes" do you think getting rid of the "Don't ask, Don't tell" policy changed how the Marines are? Or possibly how these type of guys, which I am the "faggoty" type are seen?

Yeah i think it changed it... was hotter when u had to sneak around... everybody knowed about it... knew who the cocksuckers were... who liked fucking dudes... all that... now its like less masculin' somehow... like they ain't even gotta pretend they in 2 chicks or nothing... was hotter when we'd fukin' go out & flirt maybe fuck sum chicks then go back 2gether & fuck each other.

Your tweets seem to reflect what you just said here. Som my question is do you see yourself as more bisexual than gay? I know it's not such an usual thing in some circles, but in others, I think there is still this attitude of pick a side? Or do you see that as a non-issue?

I don't really like them labels but yeah, def bi. U like pussy and I like cock. To me it's just bein' fuckin' Man.. usin' my cock on whoever the fuck turns me on. And with hot duded I like getting cock in my pussy too. And yea I feel like I ain't gotta 'pick a side' cuz I ain't into bein' sum fuckin' community or whatever. I like fuckin', figthing, and workin' out... and generally raisin' hell <haha>... Turns off a lot of Marines who like homofuckin' to say yet gat cuz we don't wanna be aprt of sum political shit or wtf... Just wanna fuck and have fun u know. Hope I ain't pissin' u off bro. Got sum typos in there hahaha.. u probly can figure em out tho...yer smarter than me 4 sure.

Oh, you aren't pissing me off at all. Everybody has a very unique journey that them, then you know, thank god we all aren't the same, you know. How fucking boring would that be? I asked for the interview because I love the tweets you send out, and the biggest reason being is you are among one of the most masculine guys around who call your asshole, pussy. Which brings me to my next question. How did that realization, if you will, that you have a 'pussy' come about?

Thanks man! thats awesome... about being unique and all.. and glad u like my tweets. Well for me it started cuz my daddy, I mean my my real daddy Jake.. he was fucked when he was a kid, like 11 or 12.

Your father was fucked at 11 or 12?

Anyway, he liked it... so did his 1/2 brother my uncle Randy.. he got fucked too by the same step dad but was even younger... I think thats when the started talkin' 'bout their fuck hole as their pussy.

That had to been years ago right?

So when i started gettin' horny as a young duded, like 11 or so... Jake was the 1st on to fuck me... told me he was gonna give me a man's pussy... said thats how dudes talk & i should get used to it.. just be real open 'bout wut i wanted and all that... lie dont say 'lets go to bed' or shit like that but 'i want yer cock... or i wanna get fucked in my pussy'... and since he talked that way 'bout himself me and Troy was the same way... besides i mean it feels real good getting cock in yer ass & makes u cum, so its kinda like a pussy on a man.

Well... I'm 28 and Jake was 13 when he knocked our mama up with us... so yeah, it's been a few years.

This is a great story angle here because it's the very masculine side of being pussy versus this very feminine or sissy side--- which can be just as nice, if that's your thing-- but the "butch" side is seems it is so rarely seen.

i guess... i seen it a lot in the Marine Corps... ev'ry swingin' dick around here is alpha as fuck when we're in public or whaev'r... but just 2 or 3 of us alone wantin' to fuck or get fucked, we just say it like it was normal, 'good fucking pussy bro' and shit like that.

So more of a compliment or attitude than a frame of mind right? Not necessarily, possibly, being a pussyboi. Or is that wrong?

yeah, it ain't a insult or nothin'... just like, if the dude is hot, u wanna fuck his hole... so its pusst.. means you wanna fuck him... dont mean he like a girl or nothin'... just hot to fuck.

I love this attitude, because for some being a pussyboi is that we view our pussied as our only true sex organ, & I'm sure you are aware of that too. Then there is this whole set of us that get off on chastity cages, or say wearing lingerie, or see ourselves as girlboi's and to hear you say that wanting to fuck a guys hole makes his hole pussy is something I've felt for awhile now. If you're getting fucked, admit it or not you're being HIS pussy.

fuckin' A!! Xactly... Marines is real good at syin' things like they are... i don't  get in2 chastity or like not havin' a dick, fuck no! we all love cock, 'specialy our own & wanna use it, get off & all that shit... wanna fuck a dude cuz he's a man, i want him 2 have a ock i can play with or suck but i also wanna fuck him in his pussy & get my own dick off too... i think thats why men is made they way they are, feel that pleazure in our pussy & cock both.

There's this whole denial of pussyboi's not allowed to see or use our cocks, to focus on being a true submissive and fully focus on being pussy for MEN. Dominates like you, to fuck our cunts stupid. Add to this, this idea of calling our cocks...clits. I get off on all of that, as a pussyboy. I love being railed up the pussy and just having my dick flop about. If the top/Dom?Daddy wants to touch my dick he can, as in that moment I'm his. 

What do you think about this side of the more submissive or even, some might term is. faggy side of bottom guys?

No offense, about fag and faggy... just the way we talk.

But yeah, i ain't too good not to fuck a faggy boy... done that with sum Sailors & even sum Marines... in the air wing tho not the infantry hahaha... i mean its good pussy & its fun to get rough on a dude who gets off on it... but mainly with them type of duded i just wanna get my cock off, not as in2 the bitch as i would be if he was a dude like me.

Oh no offense taken at all. Being a 'fag', or at least sexually speaking is a whole other mind set. I'm approaching 55, and in my 20's so many of us reclaimed those words, and in power; and especially with activist groups like Queer Nation and ACT UP.

You might be surprised by the things I call myself Daddy Achilles <giggle>.

hahaha maybe... i done heard a lot tho.. even tho i'm only 28.

You might even know some I don't. <lol>

What I find so encouraging is your generation doesn't seem to have as many hangups as mine did, and in many ways things are far easier; like coming out, the internet for looking up gay content, gay hook up apps and the like.

yeah... i don't know 2 many dudes with hang ups... its like if it feels good go with it... got a lot of Marines to try to getting fuck'd for the 1st time... showed em how to get ready like I was taught by Jake... took it slow made sure they cum... helps havin' a good lookin' face & jack'e body... at least i'm told i'm good lookin'.

I'm sure you're VERY good looking, besides the uniform helps too. Who in their right ever loving mind can resist a man in uniform. Lord knows I NEVER could. I was/am my own personal USO providing pussy for every damn branch including the Coast Guard <lol>.

But I'm sure guys like you like bois like me.

fuck thanks man!! fuck, i'd have u swingin' off my cock if u was here... I like doin' this intervu with u ... its fun.

Oh I'd definitely be swinging off it, for damn sure. Could we talk a lil about Twitter, the company and censorship? I saw your feed three Twitter ID's ago. As I've been suspended twice now fro tweeting about being pussy for men. Is this partially why you misspell and censor yourself?

Yeah. I've been suspended three times for using cunt in replies and shit. It's all bots doin' the censoring so I gotta be careful it don't like I'm callin' somebody a cunt or a pussy. Plus I can't spell for shit. hahha.

Maybe that's part of the appeal too, this himbo thinking you know. The only time Twitter sent an email that made ANY sense at all was that I was misgndering people. Which I took as calling bois pussy <lol>. 

Here's the funny thing though, even Adam4Adam took it on themselves to censor the word 'pussyboi' in my bio <lol>.

So fuckin' uptight about way dudes really talk! Fuck! Only thing I don't like about Twatter.

Me too, I hate it at times. And the one place we can talk the way we do was bdsmlr, but now you can't see what you're following unless you book marked the page.

So what lead you to create your "boypussy" videos?

I like to fuck with loud music blastin' and did that once when I watchin' some porn. Thought it was hot and figured out how to use movie maker and just been  having fun.

I love your videos so very much, and I think there is a real niche for them. It seems so few in gay porn will say things like , "fuck my pussy". Besides I love a GREAT top that fucks to the rhythm  of porn or music.

Fuck yeah!! Thanks bro! That makes me feel real good. Love that. Gonna keep makin' 'em. Appreciate you.

My next question is Troy-boy; is he your real brother, your marine 'brother', or is he a 'created family' type of brother that so may of us do in the gay community?

no, me and Troy is fraternal twins, same mama, same daddy. Just so u know... I'm runnin' outa time here... will. be packing in a couple of hours & then gone for a couple of three weeks.

Ok. Thank you so very much for your time. I appreciate it so much. Safe travels my friend, hopefully you get some boypussy while your gone.

I really want to take the time and deeply thank @APatroclus for his time over the course of a couple of days to do this interview. Words can not begin to express how very much it means to me. I hope all of you enjoyed this interview and if you are not following @Apatroclus, what are you waiting for?!

Pride vs. Shame

With it being pride month I wanted to take the time and approach this from a very different angle, and only one that you might only see here, and that is pride in being a pussyboi.

Our community, the LGBTQIA+ community, can be, at times very vicious in our "prejudice" in how we see each other. First of course the whole vernacular that happens on Grindr and other dating/hook up apps of "no fats, no fems, no Asians, no Blacks.... no this and no that. As Bianca del Rio would say, "Really queen?" Do we really have to throw that kind of shade and hate at each other when we get more than enough from the outside community? I mean seriously, and as something as NEEDED within the gay male portion of the population---- bottoms.

Let me begin by saying that without tops there would be no need for bottom boi's, but without bottoms there would be no need for tops. We both hold a very unique place in our society as men who have sex with men, and we do need each other to make it work, and work well or the the outcome is we're both sitting somewhere masturbating the ways that we do.

But it is more than that, so many see bottoms, especially pussybois as weak, effeminate, girly, prissy, powerless, and dare I say even as worthless. Well, you know something I say bullshit to all of that! A very large of bottom men and pussyboi's are not those things, and while some of us maybe one or two things we are never powerless or worthless ever. We maybe the ones getting fucked, but it doesn't necessarily make us any of those things and even if we are effeminate, girly and prissy so what of it? We all can't be the same, how boring would that be? 

As pussybois we may take on "girly" terms for our sexual parts, but I can't begin to tell you of the number of guys, especially those int o the dom/sub arena that get off on that. Even if we are using that language, I can't begin to tell you the number jock-muscle bois who use that language besides the average guy. We come many forms, shapes, sizes, and ages. We are all not just one thing.

Even those among ourselves who take on she/her/hers as pussybois, like myself, there is nothing wrong with and shame should never be part of this either. I think of myself this way because of how I identify my sexual parts--- all feminine terms--- not wanting to be trans... which in my thinking is very different than what I blog about.

sluts, whore's & himbo's oh my

Got to this post late in the day today, and I'll apologize for that. The day has not been an easy one. But I woke thinking I wanted to take the time and write something close to my heart: slut's whore's and himbo's. Two of these three things I've been called in my past and even in my present. Himbo, I fit, I feel part of the thinking, while an other part I fall sadly very short of: athletic, jock-ish, muscle-y and masculine. All of the things I am not. The slut part of himbo I do fit, and while I've lost in the last year-and-a-half close to 90 pounds I'm still would like to loose more, those damn cookies I'm fond of---damn you!

I think this goes back to this ideology that for many of us, especially as gay men, and maybe more pronounced for those of us tagged as "sissy" when we finally do come out; there's this sense of urgency of making up for lost time of being fully ourselves and especially in the arena of having sex with men. I think too this issue of "lost time" can be further compounded for those of us, myself included who are bottoms/pussyboi's.

As I think I've said here before I knew very early one I was different, that the language for that difference came in regards to the teasing I endured in high school and by thirteen I was indeed gay. I waited, as I've said before till I was eighteen though to have sex with a man. A man who became my lover and I was in a throuple. Luckily I also had two men who loved sharing me with other men--- their friends--- and who adored watching me get railed. By twenty-one l had sex in the thousands of times. I was "their slut" and every time I had the opportunity to go pussy up I did.

As I've said before, Michael even way back in 1985 was calling me "his/their pussy". I had and still have no shame about it. It's not like I can undo it. In the 166th day of this year (June 15th, 2021) I've been already been bred 38 times... that's not the total dick count as I don't count the ones that don't cum at all. that's about a load every 4.37 days, not bad but not what I want either. But things are complicated at the moment.

A few years back I did keep track of total number of loads for the year and that year it was just 54; so I'm well to surpassing that. If I could I would be getting fucked and bred multiple times a day; maybe four to six at the least. I'm a bit insatiable.  You should be too.

These terms have been and are used against us and I say fuck that mess... you want to be a whore than by god be one. Feel no shame about it, at ALL, EVER!!!!

Daddy

 I know it's been awhile since I posted anything, it's that my days just go by to quickly as I'm a 24-7 caregiver here at home--- it's complicated at best and I'll leave it at that for now. You're not here for my issues, you're here for my insight and hopefully my advice. I have an interview coming up for here that I think you all will be VERY excited about, and I was beyond thrilled that he said yes. I want to keep it a surprise till the interview is up; so mum is the word.

Today's meme's all deal with Daddy.... and I don't mean your father here. As so many of us, especially as gay men have huge issues with our father's, myself included. Won't get into that here either but what I will say is I think it is why so many of us gravitate towards strong, dominate type men who we are sexually attracted to and we end up calling Daddy.

The term daddy is relative. A younger gay man that is very mature, very responsible, looks after others or fulfils a provider role in some way could be seen as a daddy to someone the same age that is less mature/responsible/etc.

Daddy used to have a pretty specific meaning in the gay community. It meant an older gay man who would help mentor, and teach, and usually sleep with, younger men who were entering the community. I knew a few amazing Daddies when I was younger. Today, the term usually means someone older - or someone who seems to be older - who gives off a nurturing/dominant look or vibe. It's hardly an insult, and when it is said in regard to you should accept it as a terrific compliment.

Jonathon Borg in his 2017 article "Why People Are Calling Hot Guys Daddy" said:

        Outside of gay culture, however, I’ve noticed pop culture has adopted the term         too. Issa Rae’s lead character on Insecure throws the term around, and in                 2017, "daddy" has seemingly morphed into "zaddy," another version of the             term that essentially has the same meaning.

           According to Urban Dictionary, guys considered "zaddy" basically have the             "It" factor. They're stylish. They're perceived as cool. They have their s—                     together. And obviously they're hot. Typically, they're rich.

        I turned to Jack Halmberstam a professor of English and Gender Studies at            Columbia University, and the author of several books like In a Queer Time                 and Place, The Queer Art of Failure, Female Masculinity, and Gaga                         Feminism: Sex, Gender, and the End of Normal.

        The answer, it turns out, is that it’s an incredibly complex term rooted across             several groups in history, and one that continues to evolve.

        “From my perspective, it comes from black culture. I think that’s a pretty                 accurate origin story if you needed one,” Halberstam says, explaining that                 terms like “mommy” and “daddy” became sexualized in a post-slavery period,          when black kinship was disoriented.

        It’s also Freudian. “Unfortunately, we do still live in this matrix of family                    relationships that are both taboo and eroticized and often eroticized precisely         where a parent is absent, rather than where the parent is present, and that’s             really a psychoanalytic way of thinking about it. It lingers from a number of             difference sources.”

For me, the term is an emotional bond to the main I am deeply bonded to emotionally, sexually, spiritually and in the past has been used primarily to the three men who have been my husbands (two of whom have died). Of course I have used like a vast majority of gay men during really hot, intense sex. I mean who hasn't right? Things like: "Fuck my pussy, Daddy." For me if it feels right saying it, I say it; and I don't overthink my saying it. You shouldn't either.

Of course, I should say that I think you should also read the Daddy vs. daddy post as well for more insight into this interesting topic.

Daddy vs. daddy: a Dichotomy

This morning I woke with the dichotomy of Daddy vs. daddy (the only written word difference being the lowercase d). We all know what is or isn't a Daddy, so I'll not rehash that...unless in the comments below you say differently.

I want to talk about lowercase daddy. My, daddy-ness or how I see it in myself for that in all honesty is all I can write about... the rest is assumptions on my part that may or may not be the case across the board.

I want to say I started noticing a big shift in what sexually drew my eye especially to "print" and or still pictures of gay porn. Anybody with a dick can flash a dick pic, you just need a dick and as Ms. Cracker would say, "Shabbat Shablam" bingo bang-o your done. Not everybody flashes pictures of their boypussy and or in a very sexualized, provocative way that says, to me at least, "THIS, this is my sexual organ. Not my dicklet.

At first I thought I was drawn to the boi doing that, and in those poses and pictures I saw myself to a degree, but I also saw what I could become, what I wanted and needed to be even now at approaching 55 and as boypussy myself. I felt it was all those issues and not necessarily a sexual fascination and urgency to play with them sexually in only the ways two pussyboys can.

But then the UNTHINKABLE happened. I was at the baths, shortly they reopened here in Ohio, and there was this great looking guy standing there in an orange jockstrap and mask. His big pussy on display. He is a tiny bit older than I, just a lil... and I walked up behind him slipped my finger right between his cheeks and drug my finger across his pussy and whispered in his ear,"You have a very nice pussy."

First let me say, that ISN'T who I am. I had never said and done anything like that ever before, EVER. I'm not anywhere near that brazen, forthcoming or ballsy. When we got back to my room, thankfully the deluxe with a queen bed I shut the door and ala @VikingMuscleXXX and said to him, "Present your pussy to Daddy." He looked at me oddly and I said up on the bed, pussy up, back arched, legs spread wide and give me your best view possible. HE mother-fucking did IT! BINGO!

We played in each others pussy for three solid hours and I feel a real connection was made. Even during our play I called him, "baby boy". All things way out of my "norm" but knowing in the back of my head it was my new norm. That's why the post on desire. We exchanged emails and we began talking, no less than weekly.

November rolled around and I mentioned my birthday and he said "I want to do something nice for Daddy." In our email conversations I began signing them"Daddy" and addressed them as "Boi" then his name (But I'm going to respect his privacy here). "I asked what he had in mind?" The reply was simple and in my opinion humble, "present my pussy to you again". Another "Shabbat Shablam" moment.

Now almost a year later after meeting him, and I said it in November... and thankfully he didn't freakout... but I LOVE him.

 I could see us building a life together, or at least I hope so. I see my "daddy-ness" as giving, caring, loving, supportive, kinky, fun, attuned to his needs and not mine and that my caring for him is MY service to him. I hope he sees this! I hope he knows that "daddy loves him even way more than he may think" and that it's time we move forward and start to seriously date.